This post was submitted by Jen.
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months now and one of his closest friends is a female. She has been away, and is now living in the same city. I have no problem with their friendship but recently, I have noticed her behavior being a bit strange. One night she got angry at him and told him off over the phone because he was apparently rude to her. She went on and on about it.
What was weird about it was it was like how you would talk to your boyfriend not your friend (or when you're in a relationship with someone and you get annoyed with them). I found this just a bit off. She generally seems okay with me, but she started crying on another night when she was saying goodbye to my boyfriend. I asked him what that was about and he doesn't know. Since then, he has asked her why she did that and all she said is that it had triggered something in her.
The last time we saw her she started being a bit rude towards my boyfriend, kind of attacking him and being insensitive. Then she got into a dark mood and my boyfriend found this a bit odd as well. We have discussed what it could be and he doesn't know. He has asked her and she said she has some things going on at the moment. He asked her what, and now she has said she would rather tell him in person. I don't know, but I just find her behavior a bit odd and I seem to think that she may jealous of our relationship.
She appears to be nice to me but I don't know how genuine this is. They have been good friends for a while and now he spends all his time with me. I just get this sense that she is getting resentful that I am taking up all his time and that she doesn't get to spend time with him as much anymore. I've mentioned this to my boyfriend and he doesn't think that she's that sort of person.
Is there any way to resolve this without it getting awkward?