Tuesday, 23 October 2012
This post was submitted by Natalie.
I’ve been seeing this guy for a little over a month now and he’s told me that he’s starting to develop feelings for me but doesn’t want to rush into a relationship; I totally agreed with him because I hardly know him! So, two weeks ago, we went on what he called our first official “date.” Up until this “date,” I was just going with the flow and having fun just hanging out with him and doing things. But on this date, he decides to surprise me after dinner, and instead of a movie, takes me onto this cliff by the beach and he busts out all this romantic stuff (i.e. wine, candle, etc.).
The mood suddenly changes from a fun/chill “hey we’re at the beach” to this romantic setting and I almost felt like it was happening all too fast. After this date, I really started to acknowledge the fact that maybe I had feelings beyond just friends for him. BUT, here’s the thing.
Everything always seems fine and I know what he’s thinking when I’m hanging out with him, but in between when I’m not hanging out with him, I feel like it’s an all “me” effort to hit him up. He has already made it clear to me that he’s never been in a relationship and that he doesn’t like calling people and uses texting as his way of communicating with anyone. So, I’ve been finding myself texting him (not every day), but just every few days or so to say hi, and he responds and it’s fine.
Shouldn’t someone who goes all out for a first date and is telling me he has feelings for me put a little more effort in between the times we see each other to even just say hi or something? He confuses me or maybe I’m over-thinking all of this like 90% of women and am confusing myself.
What do you guys think?