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I have been with this guy for over the past 7 months now. Our relationship started over just holding hands and then it grew. Before, we used to talk about our exes, and now we're just together. I love this guy and I know he loves me, but now Im just not sure anymore....
We're having some issues with each other, mostly with him. He becomes extremely moody, especially when I hang out with our friends. He always says that I'd rather hang out with them than him. Our latest fight was because of a movie he didn't wanna watch because it was a horror film. Most of our friends agreed and went off with him to see a different film. I joined the other people who wanted to watch the horror movie. He got mad at me because I didn't accompany him.
It's always been like this and we never really talked it out. He gets mad at me and I tell him to talk to me about it, but he's not willing. Whenever we talk about it he just becomes depressed and sulks. It's so pathetic. That's why I don't bring out any issues with him any longer because he just can't handle it. It's like what my friends say, "It feels like he doesn't know how to handle relationship issues." Now, it feels like things just constantly pile up.
He never makes any decisions. It feels like I'm the one who's making decisions about every single thing like where to go, when to go, what time, dates and everything else about our relationship. It feels like I'm having a relationship with myself.
One time I got depressed about a situation and I approached him about it. He didn't even comfort me! I just had to beg for it. I felt pathetic that I had to tell him to say, "everything's going to be all right," that "he's going to be there for me," and that "everything will go well." I felt really pathetic about it.
We have the same group of friends and I'm afraid that if I break up with him that It will strain our friendship with everyone else. I feel so depressed and feel guilty at the same time. I just constantly try to say to myself that I'll teach him to make decisions, teach him to comfort and state his problem to me or just vent his anger so we can talk. That's the only thing I'm holding on to right now but at the same time... I feel pathetic.
I love him so much but I'm just not sure anymore. I feel bad writing this, too.