Sunday, 21 October 2012
This post was submitted anonymously.
If you see an ex with a "friend" of yours or a completely random stranger that is outside your circle, and you hear he or she treats them way better than he or she ever treated you, does it bother you?
My friend Caroline came up to me the other day and said she and her ex were possibly talking about getting back together, if not that, then at least trying to be friends. It took them 9 months to become boyfriend/girlfriend and she later learned that Dave had a girlfriend after knowing the new girl for only two months when they were broken up. This made her mad especially when it took them a long time to become a couple and yet he's already dating a new girl to the point where there is no chance of reconciliation.
How do you react when you hear of an ex with someone else? Or do you not care? If a guy has a new girl in the picture, there's no chance with me ever again. I will only give him a second chance if other personal matters are resolved not having to do with a 3rd party.
Similarly to my friend, I had an ex who was only officially with me for a month, then unofficial for another 6 to 7 months before we finally drifted for good. I learned that my ex asked his 2nd girlfriend ever after me to marry him after only being together officially for three months. There were other reasons why I couldn't find myself compatible with my ex so I wasn't really bent out of shape learning that.
He even quit his gaming addiction to spend more time with the new girl. If he would have proposed to me after only dating me for three months I would have said no anyway.
Sometimes I wonder why some exes didn't treat me well when we were together, yet put their next girlfriend on a pedestal and thought the world of them.
Do you ever wonder the same when a relationship ends, or are you "happy" for them (yet resenting it deep down inside)? Maybe you're genuinely happy for them?