Friday, 19 October 2012
This post was submitted anonymously.
I have been in a long-distance relationship for over two years. I see him very often and we always have a great time together. Sex has always been very good for me; he has always cared for my pleasure and done everything to make sure that I ALWAYS come (in the foreplay AND in the act itself). But when it’s about him, it is so hard to make him come. I mean, sometimes he lasts so long, that he gets tired and stops.
I usually try to help him finish with a hand job or a blow job, but even then he doesn’t always come. It is very frustrating because I enjoy sex very much thanks to him and I want him to enjoy it too, so I worry. I ask him what am I doing wrong, but he says not to worry, that it is the condom’s fault that it’s very uncomfortable, or that he worries too much that it would break so he doesn’t focus. He says that it's not my fault, he finds me very hot, I'm the girl of his dreams, that I turn him on all the time, etc.
He says that he is satisfied, because sometimes he actually does come during sex. He also says that he is happy making me happy. That's very sweet of him, but I am still worried, especially because now it is getting worse.
He used to come inside me, let’s say at least 80% of the time, but now he can’t! I come multiple times while he struggles to come at least once. I try blow and hand jobs but that won’t work anymore. He just won’t come! I tried to talk about it with him and he says that it is nothing, it's in his head, and when he starts thinking that it’s taking him so long to come, he just loses it. It’s a vicious circle and he won’t accept that there is a problem.
I worry about him, because for me every encounter is sensational!
I don’t know what to do. Is it a serious situation? Has this happened to you before?