This post was submitted anonymously.Polyandry,
the practice of one woman having two or more husbands, is found in very few parts of the world. Women have married multiple men simultaneously in Nepal, India and parts of China and Africa. Still, polygamy (the practice of one man having two or more wives) is far, far more common than women having multiple husbands. Keep in mind that in most marriages involving polyandry, the husbands are not allowed to take lovers other than their single wife. Same goes in almost all polygamous marriages.
Still, I often remember reading articles about polyandry because the photos of polyandrous families seem to involve the happiest-looking women I've ever seen.
One time, while reading
National Geographic, I came across an article called "Marriages Across The Globe." We had the usual horrible deals in Pakistan or Jordan where fifteen girls were sold by their families to forty-five-year-old husbands.
One picture of a twelve-year-old bride showed her screaming in terror as her family forced her into a decorated marriage litter where she would be carried off to meet her 32-year-old groom. It was horrible.
The only happy bride was from a photo of a polyandrous marriage ceremony in Kenya. The bride, clearly a woman in her early twenties, smiled a wide grin as she shot a flirtatious glance at her new husband- also in his early twenties- and touched his ceremonial beaded marriage collar. The groom looked at her adoringly. His brother- and the bride's second husband- stood on the bride's other side and looked at her in an equally adoring way. Damn! It was my favorite photo in the entire NatGeo marriage issue.
Polyandry, like polygamy, is technically illegal here in the US. Still, if given the choice, would you prefer a polyandrous marriage over a traditional marriage?
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No. I think it would be hard to be emotionally intimate and devoted to two different men in the same way you can with just one. I think it is better for the children to know that the father and mother are devoted to one another, and not split in their devotion.
..But that's just me.
maybe the kenyan girl was just happy cause she's really into black guys.
Notice that the two guys in the picture are more beautiful than the girl.
Real men don't stand for their woman screwing some other guy.I wouldn't do it. But, if someone (or others) do, then by all means, let them.
I wanted to add:
It's not hard to love two different men. I love my husband. I love my father, my brothers, my uncles. I have male friends whom I love very much. All of these loves are very intense, and maybe even equal in "amount". But it is the *kind* of love. These loves I feel are not equal in how they are expressed. My expression of love for my husband is so exclusive and special, it would diminish it to split it between two men. It doesn't diminish my love for my brothers if I have male friends whom I love like brothers, because brotherly love isn't nearly the same kind of love as romantic love.
I wouldn't be into this, but I think it's because I feel like the emotional burden on the woman would eventually be enormous. I've only seriously dated Latino guys, and there is a cultural expectation that women will carry the emotional burdens in the relationship, and later, in the family. It's like women are the holders of the emotions of the men. So basically, I'm imagining having 2 of my husband...I love him, but I couldn't hold that much! LOL.
If it makes you happy, go for it. I totally support plural marriages (and think they should be legally recognized), because I totally understand your point of view. As I've mentioned several times, I could never be sexually satisfied fucking just one person over and over and over again. Can you say "boring?" I know I can. Hell, it's the rare woman I find that I have any desire to fuck a second time, much less.
So yeah, get on with your bad self. So-called "romantic love" as people call it (even though I don't believe in love of any kind anyway) I suspect is nothing more than glorified lust anyway, and you can lust after multiple people at a time, so like I said, get on with it.
Dealing with one dude is hard enough, thanks.
To each their own, I suppose. But just 1 husband for me, please.
i personally am against the concept of marriage altogether. while you guys commenting are talking about love and commitment i would like to remind you that that is not the case around the world. marriage throught history has been means of controlling the reproductive capacity of women.
on the same note, it is my opinion that if you would like to be married to more than one person and ALL parties are consenting to the marriage and off consenting age, then it is perfectly fine to do whatever the hell you want.
just dont start complaining when lesbians want to marry more than one woman and gays want to marry more than one man and bisexuals want to marry a man and woman.
" Polyandry, like polygamy, is technically illegal here in the US."
no it isn't
Polyandry is generally only practiced with one woman and men who are related to each other. :/
WISH IT WAS ACCEPTABLE HERE, I love all the men.
I could maybe tolerate poly-whatever when it comes to relationships because the sole goal of dating around is to see who you're most compatible with. However, when it comes to marriage, no it should be between two people and two people only. Isn't it enough that people fight for same sex marriage now people want to legalize and condone poly-marriages. As was said before if all parties involved are on the same page then go for it, but no when it comes to marriage, 1-on-1 is my way.
I always joke about all the husbands I'm gonna have someday!
sounds like a dream come true!
It depends on how we're defining "marriage." I'm growing less fond of it as a governmental thing altogether, and if it were primarily religious/private, I think it'd be 100% fine for any combination of people to marry (within the confines of the group performing it).
I'm polyamorous. I currently have a boyfriend, a girlfriend, and am dating a third person. Could I see myself "marrying" multiple people? Sure, in the sense of having a ceremony and making a commitment to them for a long time/our entire lives. If it were legal to do so, whether I went that route would depend entirely on the laws surrounding it.
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - Every romantic relationship/dynamic I have is distinct. Your point is valid in that aspects that are usually associated with The One are associated with several people, but I don't love my girlfriend and my boyfriend in the same ways. For me, having multiple romantic relationships isn't all that different from having multiple close friendships... Several people can mean the world to you and can share certain similarities, but every one of my friendships is distinct and special, as is every one of my romantic relationships... And to us, it's not diminished by there being multiple partners.
Everyone experiences romance differently, of course, and I don't expect you to agree with me. ;) I just wanted to give an alternative viewpoint.
I used to joke about having male sex slaves, which to some of the oversensitive pricks on here may be offensive, and that's fine. In reality I am very monogamous (as most females are) and would only ever want to be with one person. If I am not satisfied with just one, it tells me he isn't right for me. The idea of getting married is about as entertaining to me as the thought of death, however, so I am uninterested. The government should not be in the way of whatever number of people who want to enter into whatever kind of contract they'd like- whether it's a marriage contract, a property contract, etc., so long as all parties are consenting and private insurance companies aren't mandated to cover all "spouses." And religious institutions should have the right to recognize whichever of these contracts they'd like. That's FREEDOM, PEOPLE.
@Edeline_Wrigh@xanga - Thank you. But part of the specialness of the love that I have for my husband is that it is entirely unique to any love I could have for anyone--in how I express it. I don't kiss or make love with anyone but him. That is only representative of the deeper emotional bond--and I focus all my energy and time into that. In that way, it would be diminished if I were to split my devotion and time, whether sexually or emotionally. It is special in that I give it my everything. And only he has my everything.
Hm... two men to provide for, protect, sex, and snuggle me? I'd be down with it.
I'd actually have an easier time cooking for more people anyway. I'm no good at cooking for two.
Okay, fantasy aside. My husband would almost never go for this, and I had enough of a time finding one man that I could stand to live with who could also stand to live with me. That sounds terribly unromantic haha. We really do love each other.
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I guess a lot of the way anyone is going to feel about it is going to highly depend on where and how they were brought up. I imagine the very notion is going to make most readers' skin crawl. I can't imagine being married in the first place, but I do have to say that this is the first time I have ever heard of cultures where the woman gets to have multiple spouses and I think that is pretty neat! Interesting stuff!
I used to fantasize about having a girl for each day of the week. I was a sixth grader. Then i grew up.
I don't see the point in becoming legally involved with multiple people, let alone one.
Date as many people as you want, but don't marry them.
Gah. Can't deal with two freakin men. Or...two people, period. Or men.
I choose beer.
twin jason momoas in loin cloths with their hot bods drenched in sesame oil worshipping me