Tuesday, 16 October 2012
I got to know this guy from way back in grad school. He was a friend of a friend, and we only exchanged a few menial conversations face to face maybe twice or thrice. Four years later, we met on a social networking site. We exchanged numerous messages and chats about anything and everything. We became kind of virtual best buddies. I wanted to know what was going on in his life/world, so did he for me.
We had quickly become fond of each other. Then one day, he drops this bomb on me about how he was interested in me. About two months later, he drops yet another bomb; he loves me. Well, I simply gave the relationship a go ahead without any response whatsoever. Our communication was completely virtual: Skype chats, sms, phone calls, but never physical (face to face). This relationship was typical of a long-distance relationship.
Three months into the relationship and like any other couple, we argued sometimes. One day following a heated argument, he requests for some time off. "I need some time" were his exact words via sms. This blew my mind. I never ever thought this would happen especially considering the fact that we hadn’t even gone out for an actual date yet.
I was completely overwhelmed and shocked. Well, as furious and emotionally broken as I was, I gave him the time off, except I felt the time off needed to be indefinitely. My decision was not immediate though.
So I contact him a few days later. However, he acts like nothing is wrong, all happy. He also seemed very busy, and calls became shorter. His responses were often, "I have to do this," or "I have to do that," and yet, he would always make the time to talk. But suddenly, this was no more. Communication became less and less. Well, his birthday was coming up soon and when it did, I contacted him. But, it felt like we were two strangers just getting to know each other.
All I wanted was to wish him a happy birthday and that was it. But then, he requests that we keep talking and so we did. Kinda made me smile and it felt like everything was okay, or so I wished.
Two days would pass without hearing from him and at this point, I had made the decision to block him from every social website he and I shared. He tried contacting me a couple of days later via phone call/sms, but at this point, I felt it was over. Then one day, communication between us just went dead. I would say this long-distance relationship lasted about three months (Jan-March).
It has been about six months since then or since I last heard from him. Then suddenly a couple of weeks ago, he contacts me. First I found a missed call which I missed unintentionally but couldn't return it because it was a foreign number (I had never really memorized his number). Then about a week after, he calls again. He claimed he had been trying to reach me. Hmm!
A few days later, he sends me a rather blunt sms wanting to know what happened to my blog updates and why I wasn’t writing blog articles anymore. No "Hi" or "How are you?" He just bluntly asked that question.
My question is why, after all this time, would he contact me?
I was very certain he wouldn’t contact me ever again.