Sunday, 14 October 2012
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Creepy Girlfriend
A few weeks ago, a good friend of mine who also lives with me, began seeing this girl from our school. I told him (Eli) straight up that she was creepy, and that once he started dating her he'd be stuck in her creepy spider web, but he didn't listen until now. Last night we were casually talking with my mom, and she mentioned how Eli's girlfriend and one of his other friends added her on Facebook, and that she wanted Eli to look over the friend's Facebook and tell her who she was.
Eli left, looked, and then came back so I asked who it was. It was this girl who had added me as well a few days earlier, but I declined the request. She was one of those overly done goth girls, so I knew that wasn't really her. Well, in school, the day after I'd declined the request, I mentioned it to a friend (who is an ex of Eli's girlfriend) and he told me that the account was Eli's girlfriend, on a fake account.
I found this a little weird (because she knows that I am not a friend of hers) but I didn't worry too much about it because, well, I had been smart and declined the request.The thing is (Eli was shocked after I told him it was his girlfriend), he didn't decline the request, and he didn't know that it was her. This chick added him on a real and fake Facebook account, and talked to him on both. She's been pretending to be a friend of his girlfriend's on the fake one. After I told him, he started looking more closely into the fake account and it was more obvious than ever.
The profile says she lives is from Michigan, currently lives in Japan, and all of her friends are from our small town. Since this discovery he's been "unnerved" as he puts it and seriously creeped out.I've personally found her creepy since the get-go. The week before last, my mom had a cow because she found the two of them at the end of our long driveway surrounded by woods in the middle of the night (it was around 4 am). The girl had walked for miles in the night, in the middle of nowhere, to our house to see him (and she didn't tell him until she got here!-- well, Eli says she told him she was coming but she told him she was here way too soon for someone who doesn't have a car to have walked).
And Eli's been creepy too. On their first date, he told me they laid in the graveyard together (also after midnight) and that it was nice. *shudder*
Anyway, now that Eli is all creeped out he doesn't know what to do in the relationship. He kind of wants to end it, but he knows that he will be hated by all of his friends for breaking her heart (kind of a silly reason to stay with a creeper, if you ask me), but Eli isn't convinced.
Any advice?
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"On their first date, he told me they laid in the graveyard together (also after midnight) and that it was nice."
So he's a creeper too. Jealous much? (if he's a creeper she's a keeper)
"The girl had walked for miles in the night, in the middle of nowhere, to our house to see him..."
http://youtu.be/84CPo4bVkMk
Paint it negatively why don't ya.
*sigh* it's always hard to judge on other people relationships cuz the things one can find disturbing or/and creepy could be cute/loving for someone else, only thing I found to worry is the fake account thingy cuz fakes accounts creep me out for personal reasons...
still I think it's his call to make, as said, what could seem very creepy to you, might be a cute (even when clingy and needy like walking insane distance to see him) gesture for them.
i'm quite weird myself.
me thinks you might have a crush on this eli?
Does he wanna break up with her or have you convinced him that she is a creep?
As a goth girl, i'm heavily offended by this.You may not like what she likes but it gives you no basis to judge her and the relationship. Have you ever thought that maybe she has two facebook accounts so people won't judge her because shes goth? Hate to break it to you sweetheart but not everybody is the same. I'm sure shes perfectly nice to you, show her the same curtsy.
I'm sensing a little bit of jealousy here too. I think you like him, why else would you be making fun of his girlfriend? Have you ever thought that he may wanna break up with her so the teasing about her being "creepy" will end?
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - if this girl (described in the article) wasn't described as goth... she would still be creepy as hell... based on her behavior alone. weird. definitely weird.
Laid in a graveyard? I've had sex in a graveyard multiple times. I suppose I'm creepy, too.
Has it ever occurred to you that it's actually a good place to hang out without being bothered?
@light_blue_fables@xanga -If she didn't care about his gf being goth, why did she describe her as such? You wouldn't say "oh this prep girl is weird" or "oh this country girl is weird" because its inside the "norm" of society. BUT, becuase she likes graveyards (I love them too, they're quite peaceful) and walking around at night shes a creep?
Like I said, she has no right to judge her based on what she likes. I think shes jealous of hid girlfriend to be honest.
@Saridactyl@xanga - Graveyards are wicked peaceful, :)
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - They are!
I actually don't live too far from where the OP is from. Her opinion of the "creepy" girl isn't very surprising to me. I got it a lot in high school because I painted my nails black a couple times. lol.
@Saridactyl@xanga - People are just so....silly lol.
@Saridactyl@xanga - There's a really pretty graveyard not far from my boyfriend's house, and when he's not home and working, I'll often walk the mile or two it takes to get there and clean up some of the neglected older graves and read for a bit.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - They really are amazingly peaceful places, aren't they?
@manic_lizard@xanga -They sure are:) There quite a few of them around where I live so sometimes i just walk up there to lay down. Its very pretty in the fall.
@manic_lizard@xanga - Aww, that's cute... and responsible.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - Hey, if I'm going to hang out there with whatever energy may or may not be there, I might as well do something.
...i need a girl like this :)))))
I think you guys seem pretty young but despite all that; I don't think you should worry about your buddy too much. He didn't seem to mind any of that really, and maybe he's being 'weird' now because some of his friends are judgmental and won't let him enjoy his relationship?
And I'm not entirely sure, but someone before me said about 'goths' and all that; people are weird, it doesn't matter what music they listen to or how they dress.
I also agree that graveyards are pretty awesome, and calming; and it's a great place for a first date, so why not.
I think if your friend had walked to her house all the way, it would have been a really 'nice/sweet/romantic' thing to do, but since it was her girlfriend, it wasn't? Make some effort, get to know her and you will be surprised.
the graveyard where I used to live was gated/locked. it didn't look like the stereotypical graveyard from horror movies, but it looked like the rich people stepford wives type of bright green hill graveyard-sort of like the teletubbies hill background. it had nice rose bushes, too, like in alice in wonderland
the view of downtown was lovely
the tombstones were made of marble, laid flat and had a shiny picture of the dead person with description on it. I wouldn't want to have sex or sit there with the creepy dead peoples' picture staring up at me when I'm walking around or sitting somewhere. some tombstones were up on the high hill, so if someone trips on the slippery grass, they'll likely tumble to their death or break their neck:O now that's risky sex. but it would be convenient, because the workers will see them the next morning and haul them away to be buried after the next of kin makes the payment for the coffins. I was just reminiscing
why was your mom awake at 4am to catch them
this sounds like the 'Burbs movie where they are spying on their neighbors in the middle of the night, except she's spying on her own son
his gf probably felt rejected that you wouldn't add her main profile, so she tried to add you on her "fake" account. maybe she wants to feel literally "accepted" as a friend on facebook and in real life, but it seems that her bf's family thinks she's creepy and she didn't want to scare them even more, so she secretly met up with him at 4am in hopes that nobody would be scared, but his mom was apparently awake and saw their twilight encounter
Yeah, I have some advice: Mind your own damn buisness and stop meddling in your friends affairs. Has he hired you to be his life coach? Some kind of romantic advisor? No? Get a new hobby.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - Um. No, you have me wrong. I seriously apologize if I offended you. The girl is not gothic, the fake profile picture was one of those excessively gothic looking model girls. That's why I assumed it wasn't really the person who added me, which is why I declined the request.
@amateurprose@xanga - See that's where you're wrong. Eli asked me to make this post, and even said himself that it should be feature-material because it *is* so creepy, even to him. Thank-you!
I knew a "creepy" girl once. long story short: get rid of the creepy girl. they are nothing but trouble.
Hey, it's Eli here, the guy mentioned in the above post. I don't find my girlfriend creepy, but I do find the fact that she has a fake facebook account that she uses for a few modes of subterfuge to be quite creepy... First, she used it to obtain information about me... AFTER WE WERE DATING! Creepy. She hit on my friend on this account... Creepy, especially when my friend is GAY. She uses this account to, well, promote herself... Going so far as to say, from her fake account ("Alice") she's received money from my girlfriend (Cody) to get her mom chemo therapy... Yeah, okay, using this fake account to see if I like her would be one thing, but to use it for multiple modes of deception for NO reason is a very different thing... This creeps me out. I don't think SHE'S creepy... I enjoyed laying in the graveyard with her, but this is just creepy.
@plursheep@xanga - No, he's creeped out. He encouraged making and submitting this post. ._.
@XXVl@xanga - Ohhh, no. He lives with me. He's like a brother to me. :)
@amateurprose@xanga - Oh snap. Joo got tolded.
@H2O_mElOnGeEk@xanga - Oh, I agree. It is pretty fucking creepy to have an obsessive roomate put up a post about something that is none of her buisness.