Friday, 12 October 2012
This post was submitted anonymously.
I didn't think it was a big deal at first because you know, they've known each other since they were 8 and are good "buddies." After years have passed, the messages have become even more flirtatious. Again, I didn't think it a big deal because at this point she was married and she wouldn't try anything to jeopardize her marriage and I was thinking maybe it's just words, especially when she doesn't even live in the same state as us anymore.
When my boyfriend was with another girl a few years back, I saw that same married girl write flirty public messages to him. I didn't owe his then girlfriend anything, didn't even know her and now that then-girlfriend is married to someone else anyway and they haven't talked in years. We started talking after they broke up.
Do you think it's a big deal if a married woman is writing, "Happy Birthday, lover" on your boyfriend's wall and calling him babe like he's her boyfriend?
I'm not even jealous of their childhood bond. I just think it's disrespectful to her marriage. I wonder if her now husband knows. She's already been married once and divorced. It's funny she claims she doesn't know why he left...I bet I can tell her. He caught on.
Am I overreacting?
I've brought it up subtly once before; how I didn't like her public display of affections. It was more than just a "good friends saying 'hey'" post. They claim they're each other's first loves. I was venting about this to another friend and he said he's joked about being first loves with his first love...so I don't know what to think anymore.
In fact, one year she even said, "Happy Birthday, my first love." Sometimes I wonder if they still talk like they have something, why don't they just get together...what on earth was stopping them before to spare everyone else in between? Or are they the type to want each other when they can't have each other?
Do you think I should bring this up again? They have recently been in contact. She's writing messages to him publicly and always putting ":)" at the end of her messages. I'm getting sick of this girl and want to call her out one of these days if she writes my boyfriend another flirty message with a smiley face at the end again. I want to remind her that she is married, and NOT to my boyfriend. They had their chances when I wasn't in the picture and neither of them took it.
Have you ever dealt with a situation like this? How did you handle it?