This post was submitted by Renae.
Recently, my boyfriend and I had an interesting and conversation-provoking dilemma.
Some facts: We have only been dating for two months and I wouldn't describe it as a super serious relationship, however we have a long distance relationship of over 100 miles and I stay at his place almost every weekend.
This weekend we were supposed to hang out from Saturday afternoon until early Tuesday morning. In other words, he was supposed to have Monday off or at least just work from home. But when a last minute call from his boss pulled him into work, this brought up the question of what I would do while he was gone.
Now, all of my previous boyfriends would have just said, "Hang out here while I go into work." Not really much to my surprise as this had been hinted at before, he was uncomfortable with leaving me at his house alone while he was at work
. When I had first been made aware of this I assumed he was hiding something (most likely due to my rough past). However, this really didn't seem like the answer. So when the issue arose, I asked him to explain. He said something to the effect of it being a control thing, like me being there without him was giving up some sort of control
. I even offered to clean his entire condo while he was at work, and he was still extremely uncomfortable with the idea. We sat around for about 20 minutes while he quietly debated what to do. Finally, after becoming extremely uncomfortable myself, I told him that I was just going to leave because clearly he wasn't ready to make that decision.
I just don't understand! I think I need a man's opinion. I have a few questions:
Is this normal? Has this happened to anybody else? 2.
Can someone explain this to me in a better way? 3.
Is this a bad thing/should I be worried? 4.
Is it because he's afraid it would make things too serious?