Back in Jr. High, my friends and I were almost always in a "relationship." Sneaking hugs and holding hands when teachers weren't looking, writing notes back and forth all day in class, and hanging out in large couple groups at the ice rink or movies on the weekends were what life and love were all about back in those days. And one more thing, the mix CD.
I don't know if this is a universal thing (I assume it is), but all of us made mix CDs for each other, be they love, just good sharing of music, or otherwise. I myself made mix CDs like they were going out of style (hey look what happened) and I think at one point I had about 16 just of my own (old school playlists). I had a habit of making CDs for boyfriends and they would almost always have a few love tracks thrown in.
Even though a few of the guys I dated were in the same friend group (because we all were) I figured the last thing they discussed were the track listings to the Mix CDs I had given them, so yes, there were some repeats. The funny thing was that a few of my girlfriends did this so exchanging mixes was a commonplace ritual between all of us. Every couple had "their song" which was really more like one of us girls saying something silly like, "OMG this song is just like us and really reflects my feelings for you" and the guy likely replying, "Yeah I like this song."
Regardless, as far as we were concerned, every real relationship could be somewhat defined in a song because when you're young and have a boyfriend, all of the emotions surrounding love and relationships and attention are the same and they all run on a constant high. And of course, when you're in Jr. High, music is the only thing that gets you.
To be more specific and cynical, you read the lyrics to a song, find a few that really speak to you, none that go against your situation, the rest are just filler, and you've successfully found a song to define your love. To adults, mix CDs and "our songs" may have more substance or are more likely to be attributed to a sweet memory than someone else's words defining your own love.
One of my favorite songs to put on these boyfriend CDs was "Iris" by The Goo-Goo Dolls. This had been a favorite of mine growing up in the 90's and when I was reintroduced to it when I was 13, it seemed to really understand and embody all of the hormonal and crazy emotions I was experiencing (luckily I learned in the next couple of years how to greatly calm down from this).
I think the biggest lyric that jumped out off the page to me was the line, "When everything's made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am." What line doesn't speak more to a 13-year-old girl who feels like it's her against the world?
This whole affair, of course, was pretty silly and melodramatic, but is one that I think a lot of people can relate to just because most people go through the same set of emotional and hormonal phases in early adolescence.
So tell me, how have music and relationships coincided throughout your pubescent years? Did anyone else, looking back, have the same formula for picking songs that "got" your love?