Saturday, 06 October 2012
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Love Triangle!
I have never been the kind of girl who had a flock of guys following me around. Personally, I would rather have one relationship than have ten guys after me. But I moved to this new school, made a bunch of friends... and now it's like, "Hey look, fresh meat!" and I'm really not having any of it.But for a while, I've been talking to this one guy, Dylan. He's funny and he makes me laugh. I like him. The only thing is... he has a girlfriend and he has been dating her for three months. He even said she was a bitch, but it's not like I want him to dump his girlfriend just so he can date me, I just want an answer from him.
So I waited for a while. And waited and waited! I'm starting to get quite irritated with him since he and three of his friends said he was going to break up with her soon.
However, now there is Robert. He's SO sweet, and he makes sure I am happy. He's not nearly as funny as Dylan. Rob is looking for a relationship with me while Dylan is giving me mixed signals.
I'm not sure... when I thought about giving up on Dylan and going to Rob, it didn't feel right. Dylan is easy to talk to and honestly, I can hardly leave him alone. I see him in the halls and I call out to him. But Rob finds me and I like that about him.I have made a list of pros and cons for both of them, but obviously that isn't working.
Help!
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Dylan has a girlfriend which makes me seem more attractive than Rob. Dylan has a girlfriend and is giving you mixed signals. So move on to Rob.
High school relationship problems become more and more hilarious the older I get. Honestly neither one sound like the right decision. Why would you wait around on someone that is sending you mixed signals? If he really thought his girlfriend was a bitch and he wanted to dump her, he would do so. He probably wants to see what he can get from both you and his current girlfriend. Robert may very well be a nice guy but if you really aren't that into him, why date him? It's not fair to him at all. Be friends with him, hang out with him, but don't make him into your boyfriend just so you can say you have a boyfriend. I am pretty sure there are more than 2 boys at your school, find one that wants the same thing you do.
Quit wasting time with the guy who has a girlfriend. If he makes you happy, go with the other guy.
Good Luck to you!
I used to think some guys in my past were funny, but later I talked to other guys and found them to be funnier compared to the others. so there's always going to be "funnier." guys, who are funny and easy to talk to can also be regular friends. what other things set each one apart from the other that makes the other one look not so appealing? if you can't decide on either one, then neither of them are really that "great." but I guess what's important and what some people look for in a relationship varies, so to each their own:D
uh...why do you *have* to be with one of them? clearly you like the first guy and not the second, so you shouldn't lead the second guy on.
as for the first guy, who cares about breaking his girlfriend and him up...not only is it his choice, but it's not like high school has any bearing on your life in the real world. your post reminded me of this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZgDvuq2mKo
If Dylan really wanted to break up with girlfriend, he'd have done so by now. He shouldn't be trusted. Only date Robert if you genuinely like him though. If you jump into it just because he's available and interested, you're only asking for trouble later on.
You don't want to be with a guy who is still very involved with an ex and even girlfriend. It's just asking for trouble and I won't feel sorry for you. Go for the single guy who isn't giving you any mixed signals, it's obvious. Do you really want to share Dylan because even if he breaks up with his gf and starts talking to you, I bet you anything he's still going to be hooking up with his ex behind your back because he's not official with you, and even being official might not matter to some people.
Dylan tells people that his gf is a bitch and is emotionally cheating. Do you appreciate that dylan is being harsh and disrespectful to his current gf? What kind of qualities does he have that makes you overlook these ugly things that he has done?
Whatever the reason, you obviously like Dylan more than Rob and I think Rob deserves someone who will pursue/take interest in him as much as he has done to them. You deserve Dylan because he's a dickhead(who somehow makes your panties wet) and Rob deserves someone better than a stupid bitch who's stringing him along for the attention.
Plot twist: you could avoid both and become a lesbian!
i feel like just recc'ing @LeeKymKween's comment isn't enough obvious agreement with what he/she said.
dylan is an inconsiderate jerk who is stringing you along while enjoying all the perks of having a real girlfriend and a girl on the side. rob sounds like far too nice of a guy for you.
your situation is not at all a love triangle.
it's the story of a jerk, and nice guy, and the fact that you 'need' a boyfriend and don't care who gets hurt in the process, be it dylan's girlfriend or rob.
Don't date Dylan. You're asking for trouble there.
I don't necessarily think you should date Rob, either, but if you do, I think it's fair to explain to him exactly how you feel about him and how you feel about him in relation to other people (namely, Dylan). I liked someone more than I liked my boyfriend when we started dating, but he knew about it and was okay with it. Three and a half years later, we're still in a great relationship. That kind of scenario can work - and I firmly believe some people can separate their feelings for some people from their feelings for others - but you need to be 100% open and honest or you're being unfair. Regardless, make absolutely certain you do like Rob rather than the attention he gives you if you go for it. It can be easy to conflate the two.
Go find someone else, or better yet just be happy to be alone and let the right one come into your life eventually. Neither sound that great at all...he has a gf...he would have broken up with her already if he really wanted to. Remember...actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.
@ALambert1@xanga - lol i see what you did there replacing "him" with "me" XD
Sorry to tell you about Dylan, but he's playing you. He's getting off on the fact that he's got two girls after him. Forget about him and mvoe on.
Why would you want to be in a relationship with Dylan? Knowing he's a cheater? Right now, he is actually cheating on his girlfriend. Who says he won't do the same to you, if he ever actually does break up with his girlfriend and makes YOU his new girlfriend?
As for Rob, he seems like he genuinely likes you. If he's willing to wait for you, you know he's a good guy. He's basically in the same situation you are. You are waiting around for something that may not happen. Frustrating, right? You are doing the exact same thing to Rob. Don't make him wait anymore. If you want him, have him. If not, let him go. And leave Dylan alone, too. He sounds like nothing but trouble.
The fact that Dylan would call his current gf a bitch while still dating her should tell you something isn't right about the guy. I don't know too many guys who'd consider their gf's a bitch but still continue to see them when they supposedly are interested in someone else they could get with.
Only go out with Rob if you really like him and could see yourself with him. The worse thing you can do is involve yourself with someone while you know you'd rather be with someone else. However at the end of the day your in high school and in a few years both guys will probably be a distant memory.
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