Friday, 05 October 2012
So it’s not out of the realm of possibility that I might have gotten my hands of one of those men who, despite what they say and their incessant persuasion, really are just in need of a chase. I swear if I live to be a million years old, I will never understand why people would do that. I think the first few times with a new lover aren’t the best anyway so I personally don’t tend to do people I wouldn’t want to continue to do.
Here’s the deal. My friend’s husband set me and his old college roommate up. We talked and texted for a couple weeks and had some really great conversations. We probably told each other too much since we hadn’t met in person, but I swear he was like truth serum, he was good at asking questions and super easy to talk to. We had a lot in common and a serious attraction based on our conversations.
He was very flirty and would text flirty messages. The night we went out, he and my friend and her husband picked me up in a limo and we picked up a few more friends. We had an awesome night and probably too much to drink. No, not probably, we definitely had too much to drink.
Since he lived out of town and was in no shape to drive, he stayed at my house. We had what I thought was really hot sex. He left early the next day, we texted a few texts, but nothing substantial. I hadn’t heard from him today and since he told me that the last girl he was with got “freaked out” because he didn’t text of call enough and that he can go for days with communicating with his significant other, I decided not to call him.
I realize that this sounds like I’m playing a game, but I think he told me about the last chick for a reason and I don’t want to smother him.
Tonight at 10:43 he started texting and in the next six minutes six texts went back and forth; three from him, three from me. He never responded to the last text, he just exited the convo. No good bye. No good night. No sweet dreams. We was just gone. Who does that? I feel like he is playing with me.
Naturally, because we had been having a great time and now he seems to be flaking out, I assume that it is because we slept together “too soon.” And this takes me back to my original point: why to men (and I’m sure women, but I have no experience with that since I’m strictly dickly) convince us it’s ok to sleep with them then run away after we do.
To these “gentlemen” I say, GROW UP! My real question and frustration are not knowing if he is over me because the chase is over or is he playing some game with me. If it wasn’t for the texts he sent, I’d assume he was out, but the texts make the water murky.
So is it a game or game over?