This post was submitted by Kirsten.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We both love each other very much, neither of us did anything to break each other's trust, and we're both each other's best friend. A few nights ago, he told me that he couldn't picture us progressing to a new step in the relationship as long as he hasn't dated other people. I'm his first girlfriend, so he doesn't have very much dating experience even though he's 23.
The day after, we figured we would spend the day together to see where we stood as a couple. Knowing that I was holding him back from moving forward in this relationship made me want to give him a little space to date other people so he knew that our relationship was right. But knowing he was going to start dating other people just broke my heart.
We kissed just once, and it was painful that I knew I had to break up with him completely. We both decided it would be for the best so that we didn't still feel like we had to be loyal to each other.
But going through this breakup is hard because I just moved here and I don't know anyone here other than him, and all my free time was spent with him, and I told him basically EVERYTHING about my life and my day and what I was feeling. Now I can't contact him, I have absolutely no one else, I've lost interest in everything, I'm crying non-stop, and I can't eat or sleep or go to classes or anything; I'm such a mess.
My family didn't approve of him so they're going to be happy we broke up. We both feel like we need to talk to each other about our feelings, but we know we can't do that AND move on.
What do I do?