Wednesday, 03 October 2012
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First Five Steps to Get an Ex Back
1) This may seem counter intuitive, but you need to cut off all contact with your ex. No text messages, no phone calls, and no ‘accidentally’ bumping into him/her. If you work with your ex or see them in a social environment, just be polite but don’t get into any lengthy conversations. You need to give the impression you have moved on with your life without them.
2) If you want to get an ex back, you need to give the impression that you are not desperate and needy. This is why you must not contact your ex for four weeks after the break-up. Remember, people want what they can’t have, and distance makes the heart grow fonder!
3) During the four week period of no contact, work on improving yourself. Go to the gym, get fit, get involved in some new hobbies and team activities. This will make you more attractive to your ex when it actually comes to contacting them, and also give you something interesting to talk about.
4) When you contact your ex, make sure you do it via telephone. Email or text is not acceptable. If your ex does not answer or it goes to voicemail, hang up and try calling again in a few days. When you do speak with your ex, tell him/her about something new and exciting you did recently as this makes it seem like you are moving on with your life and not still hung up on your ex. Keep the conversation short (approximately five minutes), and do not mention your relationship at this stage.
5) About a week after the phone call in stage 4, phone your ex again and ask if they would like to meet for a quick coffee. You want to make it sound casual and unassuming.
When you meet up with your ex, do not mention anything about your past relationship unless he or she raises the topic. It's important to stay positive!You can get a full guide on how to get your ex back by visiting this site here.
As you can see from this guide, the core points are to give the impression that you have got over your ex and that your life is just fine without him/her. That's not to say you should be arrogant, but show confidence and independence. Remember, even if you feel angry or vengeful, don't show it!
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Or you can just get over it.
Or you can just be yourself.
1) Forget it.
2) Forget it
3) Forget it.
4) Forget it.
5) FORGET IT DUMBASS!!! THEY'RE CALLED EXES FOR A REASON!!!!
Yeah.
What they said.
Why are we wanting to get back with our ex? You should probably just move on.
6.) flirt with other guys in front of him.
7.) date other people.
These 2 steps helps him see how desire-able you are, in case he didn't already know.
@sexyandskinnyy@xanga -
"These 2 steps helps him see how desire-able you are, in case he didn't already know."
To some, your desirability to others isn't the least bit as impressive to them as it is to you.
Games.
improve yourself in every way and date someone else, who isn't an ex. text your ex the smoochy pic with your new beau/beauette
if they text back to ask what's up with the pic, then say that you accidentally sent your cute couple pic to everyone on your contact list
you were originally going to send the pic to your lover
or ignore your ex forever. whichever works for the individual
Lol.....
If you really want to get an ex back, just be yourself and live your life. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. My boyfriend and I flip flopped back and forth between being single and being together for about two years before we finally stayed together for longer than two years. Playing games isn't going to work at all.
In my opinion, if you put this much effort into trying to get him back, you're just yelling and screaming out "I'M DESPERATE AND I KNOW IT!"I'm so glad I'm gay and don't have to worry about girls playing with my head.
edit: I see now that this is just an ad. Nice. -.- ......................NOT.never contact your ex.. move on!!!
Or you could just move on and accept that ex's are ex's for a good reason.
Ugh, how annoying would that be. This sounds terrible to me. And it's all based on "seeming" a certain way. If you can't be honest, don't have a relationship. This is an attempt to manipulate someone into getting back with you. Not fair, and ultimately not satisfying for either party.
1) This may seem counter intuitive, but you need to cut
2)off all contact with your ex. No text messages, no phone calls, and no
‘accidentally’ bumping into him/her. If you work with your ex or see
them in a social environment, just be polite but don’t get into any
lengthy conversations. You need to give the impression you have moved on
with your life without them.
ACTUALLY move on and leave them the fuck alone. They're your ex for a reason.
why would you want your ex back anyway? and why on earth would you manipulate someone into getting back together with you???
Move on with your life.
Sounds like a bad movie.
I think you are a little too hung up on your ex. I like all of your suggestions, except I don't like their purpose. The purpose should be for you, not for them. Get fit, get a hobby, but not to attract someone to you. Do it to enhance yourself so that you can be happier with who you are. When you are happy with who you are and who you have become and that fact just radiates out of you, THEN maybe your ex will sense this and want you again.
I do agree with the others that you need to move on. Change can be scary, but don't change for someone else. Change for you. Then if your ex or someone else down the line sees this change, and loves you for it, then I think you will be happy in that relationship because it will be based on them loving you for who you are, not who you've become for them. If that makes sense.
Best of luck to you!
@LeviStyles@xanga - "If it's meant to be, it'll happen."
I get bitched at for having that same policy when it comes to getting a job/education.
"Then what makes
Then what makes
Then what makes
Then what makes
What makes
What makes
What makes
Love the exception?"
- OutKast, Hey Ya
"Meant to be" by who/what?
Willful ignorance.
Passion takes passion... or alternatively promiscuity apparently.
http://youtu.be/nS246KKU5Dw
I tried this with my first ex-boyfriend, but it didn't work--which was fine because we didn't have much in common anyways--it still wouldn't have worked out. The best thing is to forgive your ex and move on with your life and improve yourself. If it's meant to be, s/he'll come back to you.
Why don't you try not being a manipulative asshole and find somebody else who's worth your time?
@LilitheRose@xanga - Everybody is a manipulative asshole, whether they realize and admit it or not, myself included.
There is a landslide saying "move on", but I have to ask... why? If we're all equal and admit it why take advantage of someone else?
Or is 'someone else' more worthy of one's time by default when a relationship is facing difficulties?
Hence "Passion takes passion... or alternatively promiscuity apparently.".
@T3hZ10n@xanga - Why move on? Because that's the healthier option. Ruminating over a lost relationship is not a good way to take care of yourself. "...why take advantage of someone else?" I don't take advantage of anybody. I'm not really sure where you're going with that one. It seems to be a bit off topic.
When a relationship is facing difficulties, the last thing you want to do is manipulate the other person. You need to act like adults and have a frank discussion about the problems instead of playing stupid, childish games; that only makes things worse. Part of being in a relationship is realizing whether your partner is a priority, and how far up on your list of priorities they are, and where you are in their priorities.
Not every relationship has to be hot and heavy all the time. Sex doesn't solve any problems.
Honesty and trust have to be first. If you think playing games is the right way to go about it, you're not just hurting other people, you're hurting yourself.
How about not acting like you can control them and let them be their own person? If you believe you can get your ex back through anything but a miracle, that's probably why they're your ex.
@LilitheRose@xanga - "Why move on? Because that's the healthier option."
No... that's the easier option and a self-perpetuating problem. When "moving on" is made to be the default option, how can ruminating (thinking about what happened/considering what went wrong/i.e. LEARNING) be healthy?
If you "lost" a relationship I'm pretty sure the "healthier option" would be to find it.
Haha kinda reminds me of what I told myself back then. But I figured..eh... who cares. Don't EVEN think about any future scenarios with him at all >> that's the best way.