Tuesday, 02 October 2012
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Does Someone's Weight Matter to You?
This post was submitted anonymously.
I've about had enough of this kid @Chibi_son_Goku who thinks that "fat" people can't find someone to want them. He is constantly submitting posts complaining about not being able to find someone to date - who does he think he is, claiming no one wants a "fat" person? Yeah no one wants you either, kiddo. I've seen some pretty arrogant comments from some posters, especially Chibi who resorts to calling people "fat" as insults.Last time I checked, he's skinny and all he ever does is sit here writing pathetic posts about how women don't want him or women don't want to talk to him yet he thinks he can insult anyone else.
Clearly with him being skinny and still not being able to find a girl, one would think that weight doesn't matter right?
Yet he still insults people for being "fat" thinking "fat" people can't find a decent looking person because they're "fat." It's guys like him who drive girls to have eating disorders to fit this unrealistic plastic image of what guys are looking for.
Does someone's weight matter to you?
I've seen skinny people and bigger people alike not being able to find someone to date. It's mostly to do with the personality as to why people can't find someone.
What do you think?
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Thank you for this post. Chibi is quite obnoxious and pretty offensive. His comments aren't helpful, just inconsiderate. If you're going to say something, make sure that it's well-thought out and meaningful.
It doesn't matter to the extent that some think it does. Personally, I like tall with a little meat, but I've also found skinny boys attractive, and pretty hefty men attractive. Its more of who the person is than what they weigh.
I think weight matters less than fitness. If all other things being equal, I would rather take a "fat" girl that can mountain bike, rock climb, scuba dive, etc. over a skinny girl that can't do any of these fun/adventurous activities.
Sorry, but I wouldn't date a super skinny dude nor a super fat dude... of course I also wouldn't date an idiot who goes around telling fat people that they are unworthy of dating.
I'm not sure who this Chibi is, but he sounds unrealistic. Maybe he's not attracted to heavier women, but he doesn't need to be mean about it. As far as weight, no, I don't think it matters. Not unless you're insanely shallow, in which case, what are you gonna do when you're 60 and everyone's old or overweight? Take me for example. I'm 5 foot 2, and weigh well over 200 pounds. (Granted, I'm pregnant right now, but even before then I was always curvy.) The man I'm with and the father of my child is gorgeous. He plays tennis, runs 5k's, kayaks, and is all around fit. Many women desire him. But he loves me. He showed me years ago that my weight didn't matter. He loves me at the weight I am now, and still would, even if I weighed 500+ lbs.
dear editors,
thank you for promoting the recent decline of d-ish into a forum full of people that just want to call each other names--even including people who don't have the balls to attach their name to it, at that.
this is fucking pathetic, and whichever moron thought this was an appropriate post needs to be fired.
yours truly.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - I agree.
For me it's about effort. I weigh more than I probably should, but am working on it. If someone were to weigh more than they(key word) think they should, are they working on it?
Clearly a troll post.
"It's guys like him who drive girls to have eating disorders to fit this unrealistic plastic image of what guys are looking for."
Um... so what you're saying is he's attractive?
Maybe we shouldn't attack someone who prefers to date people who aren't fat. We all have our preferences. I am unlikely to date someone (if I were in a position to be dating) who is at either extreme of the spectrum, especially if they do not put any effort into caring what he looks/feels like. I'm sure there are good men/women in every size and shape. I would rather consider people as potential mates and friends by their personality, attitude towards life, trustworthiness and loyalty. Physical appearance is on the list but not a priority.
Both my husband and I are overweight. We do try to encourage each other to pursue a healthier lifestyle, but we have never threatened otherwise due to weight. I know I could be a lot less heavy, but I have chosen to try to get in shape on my own accord, not because he told me that I should lose a few pounds.
Well I honestly wouldn't date a fat dude with very little exception (someone who could hold himself and had an amazing personality could possibly be one), nor a very skinny dude (I want to be held and feel safe, that can't happen if I might break him), however I would never put down someone because of that. We all have qualities that at least some people will not find attractive, and should keep that in mind before being a jerk and demeaning another person because they do not match our personal preference.
This post...........really?
Can we stop with the "I hate so-and-so" posts? Seriously...it's lame.
tl;dr
no, someone's weight doesn't matter. it matters how long you get along with the person.
I like dating tall guys, and might actually refuse to date guys who aren't 6'+ or at least 5'10" (I'm never going to confirm nor deny this regardless of how many people might ask me though). I have friends that don't mind dating guys who are their height or shorter. That is called a dating preference, that does not mean someone should bash someone else for what their attracted to. I like tattoos while some girls hate tattoos, some girls date bigger guys and some girls date skinnier guys. Everything is just a personal preference and everyone is attracted to their own thing that's what makes the world go round. I usually like the datingish post, but to post something that is clearly attacking someone else is trashy and tackless, regardless of who actually wrote it.
Depends on the type of person you're trying to get.
It matters if you make it matter
"It's guys like him who drive girls to have eating disorders to fit this unrealistic plastic image of what guys are looking for."
"Um... so what you're saying is he's attractive?"
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I like skinny guys, but if they're thin or slightly muscular I still like it. Weight only bothers me when the guy starts to become sloppy, mostly just because I keep in shape both for myself and so that my partner can have a girl with a nice body like I think he deserves. If a guy doesn't think I deserve it in return, it's a bit of a turn off.
However- for "fat" or overweight people in general, honestly, as long as the guy isn't a slob and still TRIES to take care of himself, that's what counts. I think that should be what counts for a woman too. If you're built a certain way or your body tends to settle at one place or another(skinny, thin, or a bit fat) then it is what it is.My boyfriend used to complain about everything psychically with me(even though I took obsessively good care of myself- and even with his knowledge of my history with eating disorders), he used to tell me that he was the most superficial guy he knew, but the good part about his own drastic weight gain of 70lbs last year has been that he hasn't been bugging me about minor flaws anymore.But yeah, as long as the person takes care of themselves and puts some effort into it, no, the actual weight does not matter.
yes, their muscle to fat ratio weight matters to me. I'm not sexually attracted to potbellies or short guys. I'll be less superficial when I'm a senior citizen. as of now, I'll have the hot guy. I already have one. I don't ask them to change. they already like working out before they met me. I'll take the pre-muscled guy
I don't like an extremely skinny person just like I wouldn't like an extremely huge person.
I could stand to lose a few pounds myself, but I'm also just right. I like fit people. A little chubby is okay. However hygiene is a bigger issue than weight to me.
And yes, this is true people of all sizes don't get dates so I don't know why people generalize what type of people supposedly "don't" get dates.
@Sapiential@xanga - So submit something, no one's stopping you. Actually this post is of substance just because you say it ISN'T of substance doesn't mean it isn't. People need to get over themselves that weight does matter some what but not as much as they make it out to be. They need to get over the fact that not everyone wants a skinny person. Some people on here have this stereotype of only skinny people being able to get dates.
@Sapiential@xanga - Your comment is ironic, by the way, claiming posts are of no substance.
@Sapiential@xanga - Also, I love how you think you're so hip leaving minis on people's blogs. My don't you think highly of yourself.