I already mentioned
the “nice guy” I’ve been seeing lately, but I haven’t told you how nervous his sweet gestures are making me. Not because I don’t appreciate them but because I’m in complete disbelief!
My college boyfriend made me feel really lame and ignored me to hang out with his hipper friends. After we broke up I entered into a long-term mess with a recovering alcoholic who often needed my financial assistance. Is it bad if I feel like all relationships eventually go south, and that now I'm just waiting to see what's not-too-nice about this new guy?
Here are the nice gestures that I’m talking about: -
He waited until our fourth date to kiss me because he didn’t want to get me sick with his cold.-
For that fourth date he bought wine and took me to watch the annual nesting of Swift birds in a chimney (I guess they fly all the way from South America just to spend winter in this one place in Portland). He was bummed about not being able to find a South American wine, which is adorable. We also originally met at a bar called The Swift Lounge and I suspect this was a sort of romantic tribute to that first meeting. -
He always walks me to my bus and waits with me, even when he has to work early the next day. Another night, we stayed out after the bus stopped running and he paid for me to take a cab home. My ex never had enough money for that kind of chivalry. -
Rather than just getting me drunk and then trying to get in my pants, he offered to cook me dinner for our first over-night adventure. This is a huge deal because of my celiac disease
! He asked me what kind of foods I like to eat and read all the labels on his sauces to ensure they were gluten free.-
I texted him to thank him for walking me to my bus again last night and he responded, “No problem. Thank you for being awesome, fun, interesting, smart, and beautiful :) ”
In addition to these things he is successful in his chosen profession and is part owner for an awesome pizza shop. My ex was so artistic and flighty that he rarely had a regular job, and never figured out what he wanted to do with his life.
Should I be building these little things up in my mind and feeling uneasy, or did I actually just find one of the good ones?