They say revenge is a dish best served cold. When it seeps through your veins, fueled with anger, there's very little reasoning that can sway you from something you may very well regret later. It's like a freight train that has been pushed to its max, that's impossible to slow down without given fair warning. Once that mark is hit--that's it!
At first, it's all thoughts, no action. You can visualize what you want to do, from beginning to end. All you need is that push. Something said too loudly. A word too filled with disrespect. A wrong look. Anything can take you to flatten that tire, destroy a home, or bleach a few clothes. When one is enraged, there's no telling what they'll do.
I've been one whose contemplated revenge, I won't lie. When the heart is broken, everything else takes over.
An ex-boyfriend had revealed his two heads and the hurt of everything crumbling had my mind reeling with punishable thoughts. It's not something I've felt before. I've never been one to be vindictive. In fact, I was always the one saying, "Just walk away. It'll hurt him more if you show that you don't care." But when you honestly do care and you have Alanis Morrisette's "You Outta Know" blasting on your iPod, turning the other cheek isn't always that easy.
Let me be clear, those were THOUGHTS, never acted upon. But very vivid ones, I might add. With smoked filled ears, I saw myself throwing a brick through his bedroom window, posting his picture on every social media site he visited and warning women to "beware of dog." I was furious. But, I believe in karma and good sense held me back from possible jail time.
Six months later, he was calling my phone, with a plea that would've made the late Johnny Cochran blush.
But that was my willpower that allowed me to bow out gracefully.
Have you ever lost yours and got pushed so far over the edge, that revenge felt like the only coping mechanism?
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I don't get it. If someone you're in a relationship harms you, you can just leave them. This isn't rocket science. You consented to the relationship, and at any point you can stop consenting. There is no reason for psycho actions when you have an option as easy as walking out of the fucking door and moving on with your life.
So for me, it's never been difficult to keep myself from succumbing to psycho thoughts. Maybe it's just a great deal of self-control and a hard-headed appreciation for the golden rule. Or just an unwillingness to get into a relationship with someone who would make me think those thoughts. But I don't see how it's that big of an issue for some people to keep these thoughts as just thoughts and nothing more.
I used to have feelings of resentment towards my ex and the girl he cheated on me with. I would imagine just kicking that girls ass and seeing my ex hurt as much as he hurt me, but I never acted I'm not a violent person and she (and he) were never worth it. Its a very ugly feeling that grows deep inside you, feelings like that are better off dying away instead of being unleashed
i've definitely had my fair share of girls that have done stupid shit, but when you have options, you tend to not care about anything that any one person does.
Count to 10 and then punch him.
For me, the only way I'd ever really get revenge on someone is not talk to them. It's dumb, but it works for me. Not acknowleding them really seems to sting a lot of people I dated in the past. I didn't want to talk to them because they ended things so abruptly and a lot of times without really any reason. Then months later when they have this urge to talk to me, I'll ignore them, and it bugs them so much since they want forgiveness, and I don't just easily cave in and say everything is fine.
Sure it might be great to let the tires out of their car or something, but it is a bit childish, and plus I'd feel kinda bad.
Not revenge on the ex but on one of the guy's i hung out with exes who harassed me. I later on didn't want to stoop to her level so I let her gossip about me and what she thinks my so called "sex" life is. i wanted to get her back especially with all the hell she had put me through while my brother was in the hospital and she was wasting my time with this crap. i told her i wish it was her in there with the allergic reaction to the medicine that almost made my brother die and all she can do is gossip around town calling me a "slut" just b/c i hooked up with her ex 3 days after knowing him...mind you it wasn't even any of her business as they had been broken up since high school. i found out some things about her after, but by then some time had passed that it wasn't even worth it. she's having trouble finding a guy to treat her right, that's good enough revenge for me where i don't even have to do anything. she still thinks it's the guys that are the assholes...look in the mirror. that's the problem.
I think revenge is a healthy thing in any relationship. Be it romantic or not.
I don't think I've ever cared about anyone enough to think about executing revenge on them. If you are that hurt by someone, then you should most likely adjust your expectations regarding people, their limitless capacity for idiocy and stupidity, and their inevitable betrayal.
The only revenge I can remember enacting was on a girl that wouldn't leave my husband alone. I called her mother.
@spicycajun@xanga - hahahaha that's awesome. what did you say to her mom/what did her mom say?
sometimes when situations get so out of hand they do need mom and dad to whoop them back into shape no matter how old they are. i e-mailed someone's mom when her kid wasn't leaving me alone, but of course they sided with their child like their child does no wrong. it didn't help my situation.
@xinq@xanga - No one answered but I left a message on the machine, something about "tell your whore of a daughter the next time she emails a picture of her nasty snatch to my husband I will be pressing harasment charges."
Whore ended up calling my husband (and got his number from a friend of his) and bitching him out over it, and he says "here talk to my wife" and she hung up. Never heard from her again.
@spicycajun@xanga - omg awesome all over it!
Oh I've been viciously tempted to be especially brutal. Several people ended up on the wrong side of my anger in the past. And I get extremely creative. Most of the time people don't know what I've done exactly to get back at them. However, I've never acted on the most violent thoughts of revenge that passed through my head. It's more psychological warfare on my part and even then I tend to hold back most of it lol. I don't think revenge is a coping mechanism for me; it's more like I'm teaching the offender a life lesson because I usually don't do anything to deserve being hurt. Both of my exes found out what it's like to screw me over. They lost almost all their friends, have a trashed image in social circles, and stay the hell away from me when they see me in public. That's because I only say what's true, and truth is the best kind of revenge :)
No. I have never taken revenge because I don't want to be led to do something bad by anger. I don't want that.
I'm older now, so walking away seems to be somehow easier? But for the sake of the article, I want to share a story about my younger days.
I dated a guy. I was in love and thought this guy was the one. Well also being young and confused on what a strong woman was, I put up with a lot of cheating. And physical abuse. And definitely some messed up mental nonsense that went on for about 4-5ish years. Eventually I started to develop better life living skills and left the guy. Took awhile, but to this day I have no feelings for him and actually he came by my house the other night, only to leave texting ":( I guess I just thought you'd always love me." Granted that was out of left field, but my point is- No, I really just don't feel that way. No love. No hate.
But I will admit, before feeling worse and then feeling better. I snuck into his house and stole his XBOX I had given to him for graduating high school. He was in Iraq and I found out he was cheating on me. WHILE HE WAS ON TOUR! Haha, so I totally stole and sold his xbox for tattoo money.
He still accuses me of doing it. I just smile and deny his accusations. I know it's not a crazy big come back, but I guess it's something I'll never forget that I totally feel zero guilt for. :)
Best revenge I've ever gotten is a loving boyfriend of 3+ years, a paid off house, and a puppy named Pandora as opposed to his failed marriage, no stable home, and his drug charges.
Yeah, had a few moments where it would have been LOVELY to put glue in the shampoo bottle or throw out all the clothing onto the street. BUT, better judgement tells us all to keep it moving. My mom always says, never get mad (or even), just get beautiful. When you're spotted in the long run doing better for yourself than he/she is, they can only feel sorry that they fkd up in the first place. They'll just have to live with you moving on to bigger better things without them.
Let the ship sail and don't look back.
Yes i have gotta revengeful, but I have learn from that, to get even is pointless and stupid.
THE BEST way to get "EVEN" is to LEAVE THEM ALONE.Drives them insane. So far, the men I dated who have dumped me, or other way around always, always come back.
“The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.”
― Marcus Aurelius