Honestly, I think you should ditch her and find a new chick, bro. She sounds crazy (even though I'm always skeptical when men describes their exes as being the crazy ones).

While I often disagree with your opinions (the ones I've seen anyway), that doesn't make you wrong, abusive or anything else ridiculous.

I'm sorry you're being treated like that. I'm...appalled the cops were involved. That's taking things to a whole different level of insanity. If being assertive or having an aggressive personality automatically made you a violent person, every politcian would be in jail for assault.

Besides, girls these days are committing violent crimes at a higher rate than ever.

@Pure_Taint@xanga - Look, I would have the same reaction too if I had read this entry, but I'm going to tell you and everyone else the real story.  I don't care enough to repeat these details again, so this is the last time I'm wasting energy on the subject. I'm sick of him going around on datingish acting like some kind of martyr when the truth is he DID hurt me when he harrassed me mercilessly.  I have NEVER called the police on ANYONE before, and as long as he doesn't invade my personal life again in that way I will not do so again on him.

He conveniently left out the part where he contacted me in every way he could, and I'd blocked 3 dozen phone numbers, almost that many e-mail addresses, and half that many made-up xanga screen names a day before the police were called.  I HAVE his xanga entry where he threatened me saved on my private xanga, even though he had deleted it right after.  So I'd love to show it to you if you don't believe me. 

Anyway, telling you how much he contacted me after I explicitly asked... and then told him to stop doesn't even begin to cover the actual content: the incessantly alternating messages of worship followed by character assassinations when I refused to engage his unwanted contact. 

We met on here, and after what I realized things had gone too far, I told him I wanted to slow things down.  Part of what made me realize they'd gone too far was his lack of motivation, which contrasted sharply with his grandiose and inspiring ideas for future endeavors. He laments this like the plague.  "I don't need to make plans, I don't work like that" would have been fine, had he been working towards his goals in some other way.  He lived 5 hours away from me, had zero money saved (not even a bank account), no working vehicle, lived in his parents' house and was fired from his seasonal landscaping job (he recently bragged on datingish that he's apparently been fired from more than half a dozen jobs) with little incentive to seek new employment.  He was too self-righteous, rambling about how "we all have to work for other people" and "that's not fair because caveman lived off the land" which soon turned into even less coherent nonsense.  Still, I tried to retain some hope that he was going to try.  In response to his seeming lack of motivation, I said:  when we finally live closer to each other, maybe we can date and take things slowly like a normal relationship.  This is what I was comfortable with.  But he refused, because I already had said things like "I love you" which I admitted I shouldn't have, but I was no longer comfortable with continuing.  He refused to wait and work towards building a relationship with me.  He already thought I belonged to him.  It was around this time I realized I had horribly misjudged his character, and he wasn't going to take no for an answer.

I had already given him a billion chances to be friends, even (despite his behavior) to start over and date in a way I was more comfortable with, yet he continued insisting that I owed him an immediate relationship despite my discomfort with it. So after he started sending me two to three dozen text messages at a time arguing with me about it, I asked him to give me some space.  He refused.  I finally told him to just leave me alone , then when that didn't work I resorted to begging him to leave me alone, all of which preceded the blocking which precipitated finally calling the police because I was to the point of having anxiety attacks; I was being awoken to dozens of text messages on new phone numbers every single day, going to sleep after having seen hundreds more later that day).  Have you ever felt truly helpless?  If so, then you might know how I felt.

Sure, I'm not perfect.  I said some crazy things to him and he did too, but we shared very private things with one another in confidence.  Those private things included most of our vulnerabilities, insecurities, and weaknesses.  Unlike him I'm not going to share those personal insecurities and neuroticisms of his for all of xanga to see, because I know it's not in my right to do; and that's obviously in spite of the fact that I consider him a vile and disgusting character.  The difference between us is even at my weakest, angriest, or most craziest moment, I would NEVER harass someone who pleaded and demanded I stop.

That's all I have to say.  You can take it or leave it, but at least now you've heard both "sides."

dude you're fucking crazy.

@eatdrinkandbemaryy@xanga - This times a billion.

@DrummingMediocrity@xanga - Anytime pretty woman!

Jerk off and play video games.

@Colorsofthenight@xanga - We're all worm food in the end, so no, there is no such thing as a unique, special snowflake.

What a creep. I didn't even have to read the other side of the story to know that.

Oh, and btw, "You really don't want me as an enemy." IS a threat. There's really no other way to take that.

@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - He's just gonna keep whining about it.

@DrummingMediocrity@xanga - Is he talking about you?! That's fucked up! There's always two sides to every story and judging by the way he treats women on here, I'm not believing a word he says.  I feel for you that you had to put up with this possessive obsessive individual.

OMG datingish why post this garbage? If you're gonna let T3hZion post this, please let drumming post her side of the story, and if you're going to post this crap, please post my entries calling @chibi_son_goku out for insulting for people for being "fat" that needs to be said.

if any entry like this should have been posted, it should have been about the pathetic chibi i wrote about him.

Get this God Damn pathetic nitwit that is the OP off of datingish. I kinda can see why you won't because he'll just sign up with a new user name and continue to do it.

As if trolling everyone else's blogs with this shit isn't enough you allow him to make it his own post. NO ONE and I mean NO ONE likes this dude, so why are you editors still allowing him to post his arrogant, ignorant remarks?

You ARE controlling -- you are MAKING her or at least trying to make her talk to you when she doesn't have to.

You ARE abusive -- you are emotionally abusive and black mailing her.

You ARE nuts.

Please check yourself into a mental ward. No one likes you except yourself on another xanga account called "jenitroll"

@bloggicus_maximus@xanga - "We're all worm food in the end, so no, there is no such thing as a unique, special snowflake."

It's funny how people claim love doesn't exist, and yet they fail to realize that proving such a claim in a scientific manner would necessitate its absence in order to prove its absence.

If love doesn't exist it is only because people prefer proving love does not exist more than they prefer loving.

As for your snowflake reference:

No two things are ever the same. If they were, they would be one thing. Show me two snowflakes that are "the same" and I'll show you one snowflake that is in a different location than the other with different absolute and relative coordinates on Earth.

Everything is infinitely describable, and not one thing in this universe is not unique (because if it weren't unique it wouldn't be ONE thing).

Even if she is not "a" unique snowflake to you (an oxymoronic statement, as "a" implies more than one exists), she is to me, and you and I are not the same.