Thursday, 27 September 2012
This post was submitted by Sarah.
To set the story up, I currently have a boyfriend, though lately he hasn't been treating like I feel I ought to be. It has been making me feel like crap on a daily basis. Recently a friend of mine has started to show genuine interest, and has been making me feel a lot more special than my boyfriend has as of late.
I met my friend at the beginning of this school year and we would talk and poke fun at each other basically everyday. About a month ago, we had to fill out a fake application in class. He took my paper from me and got my number. It didn't bother me, and we began to casually text each other. Here's where it starts to take a turn: about two weeks ago he text me in class and confessed that he thinks that I'm really cute and has since day one.
Being mindful and respectful of the fact that I have a boyfriend I responded by saying, "Thanks. :)" Ever since that day, he has reminded me that I am cute.
The other day though I was messing with him and told him he was a weirdo but that it was okay because I am too. He replied by saying that weird is the new hot and that I am his inspiration. We quarreled a few weeks ago, but ultimately his unrelenting charm and persistence to win back my friendship and affections won me over and I couldn't help but smile and blush.
Over the course of our friendship I have caught him numerous times staring at me in class, and one time we even turned a corner and nearly ran right into each other...because we were both texting the other. We even share a mutual, dorky love for playing Minecraft. While he has never done anything to purposely come between my boyfriend and I, he tells me all the time that my boyfriend is so lucky to have me and while I agree, I don't know if my boyfriend would...
We've been dating for a year. The first half was great and sweet. But after that he started getting...mean. He raises his voice at me for sounding upset, for getting upset WHEN he yells at me, and when I tell him to calm down when he gets pissed off. When I try to give him a quick kiss and an "I love you" while he's playing video games, he no longer returns the motion and ignores me. Not that I expect a return every time, but to never do it anymore hurts.
He makes me feel like crap on a daily basis, mostly by raising his voice at me for stupid things. I still love him, and we have plenty in common. Of course we have little inside jokes and know everything about each other as any couple that has been dating as long as we have, but I don't know if it's enough anymore.
All feelings for my friend aside, I'm not sure if my current boyfriend is right for me anymore. It seems that the grass may be greener on the other side, but what if he turns out to be a complete jerk too? Advice?