We all have things we're not 100% secure with. Whether it be our careers, educational background or relationships. Somehow, there's always room for doubt. How far one will go to put to bed those insecurities, is another story.
I recently watched one of my favorite movies, Brown Sugar, and noticed something that really got me thinking.
In the movie, Andre (played by Taye Diggs), is married to Reese (played by Nicole Ari Parker). They're newlyweds. But before they got married, they had this habit of picking up each others phones and using it for the day. Since they had the same one, it mostly went unnoticed until someone called. It got to be something they'd become accustomed to; no big deal... until one night in the studio when Dre had Reese's phone and received a text from a name he didn't recognize.
Apparently, his now wife, had dinner plans with another man who was confirming their meeting time and location. Curious and livid, Dre--well, you could watch the movie on your own.
A friend and I were recently talking about something similar. Then the topic came up about levels of trust when I asked her,
"If you and your boyfriend were to trade phones for a day, would your relationship last?"She stared at me for a while and contemplated my question. I openly laughed at the endless possibilities of something either going left or right, with such a simple gesture. Then she said,
"You know what, yes!" Her reasoning was, they barely kept any secrets from one another. She trusted him and she'd hope he trusted her to know she had nothing to hide. I understood her response but
couldn't help but to think about how sacred phones have become nowadays.
You could be in the most committed and trusted relationship and still have something in your phone that you don't want to be seen. A picture, an old text that you never deleted. Anything is possible. It's up to your partner whether or not those things are worth jeopardizing your relationship over.
So for those who are in a committed relationship, I ask you the same. If you and your significant other were to trade phones for a day, would your relationship last? Image Source
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no.
Yes, lol
Yes.
i've never shown a girl my phone cause i still have a flip phone, soooo probably not...unless she's really low maintenance, i guess.
Yea. I mean I randomly pick up my fiance's phone too look at pictures and stuff like that, just because he's taken some pretty cool pictures, not because I don't trust him. And he uses mine all the time because I have a droid, so there's internet on it. I don't care what he looks at. I don't have anything to hide from him.
Yes. I don't have anything to hide.
No, because I would guilt-trip her for wanting my stupid old 3G flip-phone. Haha.
why wouldn't it? lol. But I wouldn't give him my samsung galaxy! He still has a non smartphone
Yeah, he can have my phone for a day. I got nothing to hide.
he can have it! I have one of those basic prepaid phones. I hate talking on the phone. you can't see their face and stuff
plus I'm already paying for my wifi, so we can have unlimited text or whatever. I took pics of myself with it, but nothing that he can bribe me with. I'll give it to him as a gift since it already has an album of my regular pics
I get work related texts and voicemails on there. listen and use all he wants but he has to pay for his own minutes. I do nearly everything on my laptop even phone calls. I don't really care if he looks at my laptop either. I've got shortcuts to my favorite kpop vids, saved pics of kpop and other hot guys, my video games, and I have a habit of saving anything cute, so I have lots of cute pics. who actually keeps personal stuff on their phone/laptops. that's what a memory stick and secret hiding place is for
portable secrets
or they could be non-secrets. they'll never know
Yep, we would. Cuz he knows what would happen to him if I found out anything if we were official. He doesn't dare cross the line with me because he knows what I'm capable of. I have a way with words when someone does something to set me off.
Yes.
yes, i'd even offer to activate it with one of a variety of phone companies for her. ;P
but this brings into consideration a really crucial catch 22. a good thing to think about.
Yes.
...I think if your relationship would not survive your partner misconstruing something on your phone, or there is something on your phone that doesn't need to be misconstrued to end/damage the relationship...then it is basically over already.
Um, yeah, of course. If someone says "no" to that question, all I can think is that they are cheating. If that's the case, the relationship is built on lies anyway.
Definitely.. but I would never ask my spouse for his phone. Ever. I trust him. Period.
He would find nothing on my phone . . but i'm not too sure about his sometimes.
Yes. I don't have anything to hide, and neither does he!
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Are you saying girls would judge you for having a flip phone?
i can't speak for him, but i have nothing to hide.
it's not that i have anything to hide, there's just some thins i can't show her. not like dirty pictures, but conversations with my friend's about their personal lives.
@AuCinema@xanga - lol. yes. why?