So after the first few comments on yesterday's 'Experience and Maturity' post, I could tell that it was an EPIC fail. So today I am going to try and get my point across without all the window dressing
. In the immortal words of Don Knotts from The Ghost and Mr. Chicken, "Let me clarify this." Person A
is a mature adult looking for a relationship that could lead to marriage.Person A
has life experiences 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 and 10.
These life experiences can be just about anything from a socio-economic background, to education, to form of employment, to whether they like cats or dogs.Person A
joins a dating website.Person B
has a profile.Person B
has life experiences 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,11,12 and 13.Person C
has a profile.Person C
has life experiences 1,2,3,11,12,13,14,15,16 and 17.Person A
evaluates the two and tries to figure out which one is ready for a mature, long term commitment.Person A
knows that she is a mature adult based on life experiences 1-10.Person B
has 7 of these 10 experiences.Person C
has 3 of these 10 experiences.
Therefore Person A
figures Person B
may be closer to being a mature adult than Person C
based solely on what she can read on the profiles.Person A
contacts Person B
and they hit it off because of having so much in common in terms of life experience. After a few years they experience "X." "X" equals marriage.
Now none of this is to say that Person C
couldn't have also led to a happy relationship, it's just more likely to happen with Person B
So whether you agree with me or not, have I clarified my point? Have you ever tried a site like match.com or eHarmony and experienced this for yourself?