Uh.. Maturity means seeking out those like us?  Never heard that applied as the definition.  In fact, I'd argue maturity is valuing the differences in others.  Also, your post has no definitive middle or end.  No offense but I don't really understand your point.

@DrummingMediocrity@xanga - I have to say I agree with you so much.  Maturity is when willing to go out of your comfort zones and connecting andexcept others with many differences. Finding ways to compliment others and your self with those differences.

i didn't exactly follow what was going on, but i agree that people have an innate desire to feel more comfortable around things (including people) that are familiar.  that's lesson #1 of schmoozing:  when meeting someone new, you find something in common to chat about.  would i call it maturity?  probably not.

by the way, you don't have to be shy about publicly singing my praises next time :D

@WaitingToShrug@xanga -  I suppose it boils down to the fact that in order to guarentee our partner is someone with maturity, finding someone whose life experience mirrors our own can lead to that. That was my point.

To all: Epic Fail in getting that point across apparently. My apologies.

"A mature person seeks out those who have been through the same life experiences as themselves"
Um.. No.
I like to be around people who have different stories and life experiences then my own.,. thats how you grow and learn about what others have gone through.. Otherwise it tends to end up sounding like a "my story is worse then your story" thing and I'd rather not deal with that.

maturity: the abilty to learn from mistakes including other's misstates.

@lenybobsyouruncle@xanga - how is play immature? It's a need that we all have and it has been found that people who work too much actually end up having decreased brain function. I love to play, especially when I've got everything I needed to done.
Play is not immaturity. Having poor boundaries concerning our play is. 

@lenybobsyouruncle@xanga - I have never related being stoic as being mature or "adult". It sounds like you have a stereotype stuck in your head as to what adult is. Maturity does not decrease creativity at all. I don't think it's mature to be a workaholic. Gaining maturity should bring about balance so that no particular area dominates your life to the point of hurting you or impairing you. The most mature I've ever personally felt is when I was playing silly games with my kids because I know that what I put into them today is going to benefit them tomorrow. We play pretty most of the day, make games of housework and learning. I am a great mom who strives for maturity and I am very rarely stoic.

I view maturity as learning how to function in a way that is beneficial not only to yourself but to others around you. That route is different for everyone depending on what their passion is. Creative people can be creative, by-the-book people can be by the book. It's not creativity vs. maturity at all. Take for example my brother and sister.
Both of them are ridiculously creative. They can draw, create all sorts of things with their hands and in general well surpass many in talent. My brother on one hand is of the mindset that being creative is more important than keeping a steady job that is not entirely focused on creativity, going to college(because in his opinion, even art classes may not touch on the kind of art he likes) or listening to anyone else. Where is he? He is unhappy and depressed most of the time because he has done nothing with his life. Can he play almost any instrument? yes. Can he draw better than anyone I know? absolutely. But his problem is that he never has learned how to create a balance and go further because he lacks maturity. He is stuck in a self-defeating circle.
My sister, on the other, decided to put in hard work and get a degree, which I absolutely understand is not for everyone. It was just her choice. She realized that it would be beneficial for her future because she was able to look past the immediate moment and look at the future, which is a keystone of maturity. She ended up getting a degree in business management and now is paid a lot of money to create the artistic jewelry that she makes and sells out of her own store. She is ridiculously creative and has learned that it does not have to be stifled. Maturity does not stifle creativity. If a person is creative enough, and mature enough to put in the hard work it takes, they can figure out how to make a living doing what they love.
If someone continuously makes choices that hurt them, makes themselves and others miserable and they keep hitting a wall, complaining about it but never changing their self-destructive habits, then they are immature in the fact that they do not learn.

@LALALANDFM@xanga - maturity[məˈtjʊərɪtɪ -ˈtʃʊə-]

Maturity is about how easily you can grow with & accept change. I'm currently 22 & I'm at that point where the adults around me are attempting to inform me how to become a mature adult.. which can include anything from liking country music to eating asparagus.. I don't really know what to think about all that, especially since I don't believe any sort of food is the key to magically becoming an adult, but I do think we have to stop thinking so much about it. Humans are always looking for the answer to life & why we're here, we're always searching for signs that will lead us on the right path, & we're always asking questions to deities that might or might not exist. I think the ability to think is our biggest downfall, especially considering we have a huge tendency to overthink EVERYTHING.