Monday, 24 September 2012
This post was submitted by Annie.
I got engaged 6 months back. Approximately 5 months before our engagement, I came across a few mobile phone bills belonging to my would-be fiancé which told that he had been messaging at midnight with one of his female colleagues who is a divorcee.
When I confronted him about this, he said the lady was making physical advances toward him and he was just trying to shoo her away. I couldn't buy this story but still I had to agree with him. He also promised me that he wouldn't ever message her again after this. However, just last week, I again got hold of one of his phone bills that showed that he has sent a few messages to her 2 months prior to our engagement.
When I asked him about this yet again, he said she messaged him and he had simply replied. There was nothing wrong in his mind. He had cried a lot for past 4 days. In normal situations I would have handled this, but he is a brain tumor patient. Whenever he gets upset, tense, or cries, his condition gets worse. He lives alone because of his job. When his health deteriorates, I get so scared that I forget whatever he has done and reconcile with the fact that I have to accept everything for the sake of his health.
I knew about his health before our alliance and it's my own decision to have this relationship because I love him a lot. But I don't understand what I should do if it turns out he's really cheating on me. If I talk about this he can't handle it, but if I don't I get frustrated.
Please help me! What should I do? I am losing my trust in him.
I'm afraid I'll neither love him nor respect him for what he's doing to me. Should I accept everything because I love him and worry for his health?