He asked me for my number, he has to call first. It's only been 2 days since our initial meeting, he can listen to my voicemail until day 3. It's only our first date, I could give him a kiss on the cheek. It goes on & on. The do's and don'ts of what is acceptable in the realm of dating.
Quite annoying if you ask me. Since when did the interaction with another human being become one of such a checklist fiasco? I wouldn't have believed people really went to such extreme depths if I didn't hear it for myself.
I was on the bus the other day heading home, when I overheard a conversation by two grown women. By grown, I mean...over the legal drinking age. One of the women was describing and explaining her meeting a new guy and the days that had previously followed. I honestly found myself confused when I glanced around at them and saw that these weren't teenagers. The conversation had to be a joke that I clearly had the misfortune of being in the earshot of.
During my 30-minute bus ride, I listened to this woman (let's call her Peggy), go down the specifics of the things she'd checked off on what she'd done on her date. I found it intriguing, yet hysterical. Loosely in her words--I waited about two minutes before I answered the door when he rang. I acted appreciative, but not eager. During our dinner, I left out any information about my exes; that's date three conversation. I let him know I was interested in what he had to say, but made it clear I could hold a conversation as well.
The lists went on and on and on. It was almost as if she was following the rules of a "how-to-date" help book. In fact, I was almost certain she was.So I found myself really questioning, do women, or even men, actually do that?
Prepare for a date, down to the actual specifics of your behavior? What ever happened to going with the flow of getting to know one another?
I mean, I'm all for the "make your first impression, your best impression." But, I'm not one for false personas, or implications of what you think the other person WANTS to hear, rather than being who you actually are. Have you ever created a list of do's & don'ts to follow through when it comes to dating? Or are you one who believes in letting the chips fall where they may?