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My friend and I were really close... or so I thought. We had known each other for over 10 years and talked about anything and everything. We would talk about our experiences and relationships and practically knew everything about each other.
The night we had sex, I was 17 and he was 16. We weren't in a relationship or anything but in conversation would say, "I love you," "xo," and sentiments like that. We had/have a lot of things in common but ever since that night he has slowly been severing ties with me
(it has been about 4 months).
I really want things to go back to the way they were before anything happened that night. The event has clearly affected our relationship horrifically and obviously I miss him and the close friendship we once had.
About 3 weeks before we had sex, we were spending the weekend together and he told me that he loved me and how much he cared for me. Reflecting on everything that has happened since, the thought of being used keeps going through my head. This wasn't preconceived or anything but he put on the moves and I just went along with it. While I don't regret losing my virginity to him at all, I also don't know how to go about getting our friendship back to the way it was... is it even possible?! What advice does everyone have as to how to get our relationship back to what it was? Did I make a big mistake in sleeping with him?image source