Tuesday, 18 September 2012
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Mixed Signals from My Boyfriend
My boyfriend has been giving me mixed signals lately and this is not the first time he has done this. However, I have confronted him about it and he says that he's doing it because he's been hurt many times, and that he apologizes for confusing me. But I honestly can't take the feeling of confusion anymore and he's getting worse; I really want to be with him but he's making it so hard and it's hurting me. It's like the closer I get the more he repels.What should I do?
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Cue the million and one "move on/dump him" comments.
Datingish commentators are as predictable as big black women on Maury.
Ha.. this provides the perfect opening for you to be honest about your past promiscuous times.
His fault of not being honest can be a perfect trade off with you not being so honest (about your past, only, as of what I am assuming).
Do it gradually if you wish to do it at all.
Sorry, I lost my internet mind-reading chip. How is anyone supposed to know or give advice based on this post?
punch him in the dick.
mixed signals usually mean (no matter which gender they are coming from) that the person isn't really invested in keeping you around, but they don't feel like they need to push you out of their life. So if you are willing to stick around without getting much, you're welcome to stay...until they find someone they really ARE into.
so, balls in your court. Either you're cool with shabby treatment and you hang, or you're not and you move on
You win the reward for vaguest post on datingish thus far.
You need to talk more, both with him and (if you're looking for our advice) with us.
What exactly is he doing? What are his specific issues, and where did they come from? What would you prefer him do instead, keeping in mind that he can't make the issues magically go away? How would he like you to handle it? If you guys can't do what the other person would prefer, is there anything you can do to improve the way you communicate and the way you handle the particular issues of his hurt and your confusion?
you know what i want to see? i want to see a post on d-ish narrating (in an abridged format) the entire course of a relationship that was completely happy, start to finish, including a break-up in which the dumper was completely honest and articulate about his/her feedback to the dumpee.
when that happens, i will *maybe* consider doing a relationship. (but still probably not.)
@Erika_Steele@xanga - Exactly.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - you'll just whine about how the dumper is personally attacking you if she lists all of your flaws and tell her that you don't want to hear any of it because you can't handle the truth. you avoid relationships, so you won't feel rejected since it wasn't serious. that way you can keep your ego and the flings can't hurt you since they mean nothing. what's so intelligent about having flings with other desperate sluts just to have slutty stories to tell other sluts?
You need to give us more detail - what's he confusing you again? Is he lying to you? Or is he saying one thing and acting the opposite? There's really not much to go on here.
so because you are confused you have to confuse the rest of us??
this post makes little sense... need more info!
Get some couple's counseling (one where there are sessions with you as a couple and individuals)
I don't know you nor very much information about your situation... Ease up..step back... and stop putting so much pressure on the guy..
maybe taking a short break from each other would be good for both of you.. Then, in 6 months, if you still are interested, you could get back together.
Some things your boyfriend may need to work out on his own.
Christy
I love these "mixed signals" posts. I can always say the same thing.
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I tried to type this in a million and one times but obviously didn't make it. Anyway why would you want someone who plays hot/cold? Ditch him.
@DrummingMediocrity@xanga - Award, and capitalize "Datingish".
@Guest - "I tried to type this in a million and one times but obviously didn't make it."
You typed "Dump him." 203 times. Not even close.
https://docs.google.com/open?id=0B250jsPNJIxyeGZ6NGczeHJsSG8
That literally took 2 minutes to type 1,000,001 times... it took longer to upload it to Google Docs. Good luck getting it to load.
I just scripted a program that compressed 16,777,216 individual 58-byte bitmap images (roughly 1GB) into a single 156MB file (a mere 15% of the original size).
You're lazy as fuck.
Everyone comes with some sort of baggage, but it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Just communicate and be patient, if you really want to be with him.
Vague post is vague.
Gotta be a bit more specific, but if he's giving you the runaround... then put him in his place and tell him to stop playing games. Be honest with your relationship and see where it's going to go.
After being in situations like this, once the dynamic of the relationship shifts to you begging for affection and him repelling...it will always be like that.