Sunday, 16 September 2012
This post was submitted anonymously.
Maybe I'm "jealous" that you're able to find someone new right away and keep them long term no matter who it is or maybe I'm not...I used to have trouble as it is getting someone to stick around to try to get to know them to become more and yet, you can do this without effort.
If I had been in a 5 year relationship with someone and it just ended, I know I could never replace that person right away. Nor could I ever move on so fast. My heart would not be in the new relationship and it wouldn't be fair to that new person that I'm still thinking about someone else. We all know that life's not fair, but if I am able to be in control of the fairness, I will make it fair.
How do you do it? Do you know someone who is a serial monogamist? Have you been one yourself? If your previous relationship treated you horribly, then I can understand why you would want to move on quickly, but even then, I don't find that to be an excuse. My thoughts on the matter is that you can't keep someone around for a lifetime of marriage if you're not even okay with being single for a while to find yourself.
What do you think? Do you agree/disagree?