Tuesday, 11 September 2012
This post was submitted anonymously.
The ditching friends post and the comments in that post got me thinking... all I ever see some people on here do is complain about not being able to date anyone. Have they ever thought that after failing so many times it's not the people they are with but themselves and some self traits they need to work on? No, it's always the "significant other" or "person of interest" that's the problem, never the self.
Perhaps they have high standards and are searching for something that is too out of reach. If you're having problems finding and keeping people -- try lowering your standards.
After all, beggars can't be choosers and they can't have high expectations. You could obviously, but don't be too disappointed when you're with nothing.
Even giving an open relationship a shot is still keeping someone around for a long time. If you can't even find anyone at all for an open relationship let alone an official relationship, then that might be a problem with yourself not who you date. I always see these posts about other people being the problem; is anyone willing to admit that they have some self issues they need to work on?
Back in the day I had some major self-issues. When I grew up, I became more social with people and am easier to talk to now. You couldn't get a word out of me a few years back. Now, I can strike up a conversation and keep it going for hours sometimes.
Have you noticed this as well? Do you have issues you're not confronting?