There's a scripture that loosely reads, "seek and you shall find." While its full meaning is one of slight difference, I've always kept that in the back of my mind. So I'm often cautious on the things I question and want further information on. I've seen way too many relationships fall apart because of a wandering mind that led to their curiosity.
If I'm honest, I'd describe myself as a very curious and cautious person. In the past, it's been both a blessing and a downfall for me. I'm the type of person that questions almost everything. I don't want partial information, when I know you can give me all the details. I guess that's why things like surprises, nag the hell out of me.
But when I contemplate on whether curiosity has ever killed this cat, I can honestly say, no. Mainly because what I suspected, was already brought to my attention on its own. So there was nothing I had to go looking for clues on. But I do know of people who do; both men and women.
My ex for example, had this annoying habit of always picking up my phone. Which I didn't mind, because I had nothing to hide. But, when I noticed he wasn't just picking it up because it was there, but to actually find something, then I became bothered. He would go through my texts messages. Question names in my phone book. But, let me pick up his phone to just make a call and all hell would break loose. See, he was the type that snooped. Probably out of his own guilt, or just nosiness. That was never my thing.
I even had a friend of mine who would go through her boyfriend's drawers, or look through his phone whenever he left it unattended. And I've always questioned: Where is the trust when you feel the need to be sneaky to find things you don't think your partner would reveal on his/her own?
My mom has always told me, "Regina seek and you shall find. NEVER look in a man's things without his knowledge, because what you find may very well be your own downfall." Now, I've looked at that from two different perspectives: 1) Don't look for something you may possibly regret coming across when you find it. 2) If you have to be sly and search through your partners things, you're already doing two things wrong: not confronting the person about your lack of trust AND being in a relationship where there is none.
Have you ever been killed by your own curiosity? Was it something you came to regret or was grateful for?