Friday, 07 September 2012
Growing up, I've always gravitated more towards my dad than my mom. He's always been the stronger presence in my life; from childhood to adulthood. We talk about any and everything. He's always been the ear I could depend on. So when it came to the topic of guys, I wasn't surprised when he gave me his honest opinion on his species.
Until this very day, I keep the advice of my dad in the back of my mind whenever I encounter a new guy. But there are 10 things that seem to resonate the most:
- Put yourself first. You are your number one priority.
- Never chase a man. If you're putting all the effort into him, he's more than likely putting his all into someone else.
- If he can't respect his mother, don't expect him to respect you.
- Actions have more promise than words. Allow him to SHOW you he's worth your time.
- Never try to mold a man into what you want him to be. That's the quickest way to send him in the opposite direction.
- Love is an emotion that carries a heavy load on the heart. But don't lose yourself when you fall.
- Be patient. Things come when they should, not when you want them to.
- Chivalry will never be dead. Men that open doors and stand on the outside of you on the sidewalk, still exist.
- Always think with your head and feel with your heart. They both have valid reasoning.
- Never allow anyone to tell you good men don't exist. You have a father.
As a grown woman, these things make much more sense now. While at 14-years-old, I couldn't quite grasp the importance of it all.
Do you have advice that your parent(s) have given you about dating that you still carry with you to this day? Has it been beneficial?