Friday, 07 September 2012
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I'll "Scratch" Your Back if You Scratch Mine
This post was submitted anonymously.
When I moved into my new apartment, I had a couple of help from some of my buff guy friends who can lift things with ease, unlike me and my small frame. Anyway, after my friend Gary helped me move some furniture from my parents' house to my place and we chatted with my new roommates for a bit, we went to my brand new room to set things up.He closed my door and asked me when no one else was around, "What are you going to do for me?" lifting his right eyebrow, with a sly look on his face. I was thinking, "What the hell... can't help a friend move without turning it into a sexual favor?"
I've paid for his meals before and have even driven him around. It feels like when it's his turn to return the "favor" (in a non-sexual way) he thinks it's a burden or something. I've also given him gas money or paid for his meals when he drove me around, when my car broke down. I'm not one that tolerates people calling me when they only need a favor, but ignore me when I need help with something. Aren't real friends supposed to be there for each other in life changing moments?
I had just told him how I hated the new guys I met who helped me move, then tried to get sexual favors out of me... as though I was some lowly prostitute. Now, here he is, doing the same thing. Needless to say, I had no plans of hanging out with him for a while.
After some time had passed, I tried to call him to hang out and pretend like he wasn't a douche, but he hung up on me. I found this funny, since I'm really one of the few good friends he has left. He's anti-social and shuts himself out from everyone.Has a friend ever tried to proposition you for a sexual favor for assisting you in a non-sexual way? Did it ruin the friendship or were you able to laugh it off as a joke and still hang out as platonic friends?
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I've been propositioned more times than I can count. In fact, I have never been able to keep a platonic male friend because they have all hit on me or propositioned me.
Yeah, that's just douche behavior right there. I usually don't hesitate helping friends out, and I usually don't expect anything in return anyways - male or female. My friends, at least, do not try to leave me out high and dry, so they always find a way to show appreciation for my help.
tbh, i wouldn't help someone move unless he or she is a good friend--given the amount of effort, there's too much risk involved not getting the favor returned. i'll make sure to be conveniently busy.
fortunately, i've only ever been asked once, and it was one of my really close friends, so i didn't have a problem helping out.
on a separate but related note, say no to roommates. i've (mostly) lived by myself since i was 19 and am sooo much happier being able to do what i want, whenever i damn well please.
No, I don't have "friends" like that. I'm sorry you do. Maybe he really isn't your friend.
Not exactly the same situation but I once went out of my way to help someone move because she was a friend's cousin. I thought nothing of it but she apparently hinted that there was a "reward" in it for me at the end. I pretend to play dumb and just grab a sandwich from her fridge to call it even but I guess the expectation is kinda there. I suppose people assume a guy will not normally go out of his way to help a girl without expecting something more to happen, maybe not a sexual favor but least to win her affections. All that aside, the guy mentioned in the original post is just a flatout jackass.
@MomWithoutaMinivan@xanga - ::clicks tongue::
They've flirted and said they'd do something if I did something dirty. -_- I told them to go f*ck themselves. :o) They laughed it off and all. But had they been serious, super serious, that be the end of that friendship.
I get asked to help people move all the time. The downside of delivering furniture as a job for too long. I sometimes joked around with the girls, but they knew I wasn't serious. The guy sounds like an asshole. On the other hand, you used the guys you hate for help moving, so you consider them prostitutes too, maybe he figured he should do the same.
He sounds like a spoiled brat. He bitches when you want him to help you out, even though you do more for him than the other way around.
He is a douche, cut him off and quit being too nice.
I have one guy friend that says stuff like that all the time. It's usually ok, but then recently I asked him to come on vacation with me to New York. We've been friends for five years and all of sudden, he says he can't stay in a hotel with me unless we have sex. WTF. of course we didn't go. we're friends again now but...I already know, guys and girls can't be friends without some kind of sexual attraction, whether unresolved or not, is going on.
Hmm I think I've probably made that joke before, but never actually meant it. I've also joked in opposite way, that since they helped me the only way I could repay them is by doing something sexual for them. Generally only with people I'm already sexual with though.
Leave him behind...without a second thought. There are many 'class-act' guys who would never think of doing this to you.
Be relieved that he hung up on you.. There are millions of other guys out there.. Swim in their pool !!!
That doesn't exactly sound like a friend to me. I've had male friends make sexual jokes and innuendos around me, but they've never flat out asked for sexual favors. They'd be ex friends the moment they did that.
This guy tried, awkardly, to hit on you. He didn't do a very good job of it. Be sure to crucify him as often and as publicly as possible to insure that no other fellows make attempts to attract you.
He doesn't sound very nice.
Personally, I would take the free meal or gas money over sexual favors. It's less likely to cause drama, and I'm feeling hungry right now. Also, gas ain't cheap, and it's easy enough to get sexual favors these days without spending any money.
That's disgusting & definitely doesn't sound like a "friend" to me.. You know, I was just thinking about how you really can't be friends with guys anymore. Seriously, I feel like every guy I try to be friends with tries to turn it into something else! & then it makes me feel awful because they want to do "nice" things for you & suddenly that nice thing becomes a date or something that you owe them for.. It is SO frustrating.
ew what the fuck?
He thought if he did enough nice things for you, you'd fuck him. At least he was being honest with you.