Wednesday, 05 September 2012
I've read a couple of posts lately about people cheating. While reading through the comments, I've noticed that many people were against it, but I was pretty surprised that not many admitted to doing it. Of course I can't be sure, but I think more people have cheated than they'd like to disclose.
I am a cheater. I could say that I have cheated on almost every guy I have been with. Most of them probably don't know, either. And although I'm still young and may change my mind, I have no intentions of ever telling any of them. Maybe it's the kind of guys that I attract. I have been cheated on a fair share of times as well--and it sucks. So why do I do it?
I've been in my current relationship for about three years now. A good portion of it has been long distance. When my boyfriend and I started dating, it was casual enough that I kept messing around with a couple guys that I had been with previously. When it got more serious I didn't stop.
It's not like I'm out every night with a different guy. I spend all the time I can with my boyfriend. But when I want to be with someone else, I do it. I don't really feel that bad about it. And I probably see me marrying my boyfriend and never telling him either.
Which is why I'm sure I can't be the only here who does this kind of thing. If I read this, I would probably think that I'm a bad person. But the thing is, I know that I'm not. I know that I love my boyfriend and he loves me. I know if I told him it would hurt him, but we would still be together. Telling him would just be painful and stupid for us both. Though, I do see me being faithful to him in the future. I also know I'd be devastated if I found out he's been doing what I have no qualms about--cheating.
I know so many guys who do the same exact thing ALL THE TIME. Many of my male friends and co-workers are in long term relationships and often cheat. Nobody hates them or thinks that they are terrible people. So I question whether gender makes a difference in how people judge those that are unfaithful.
Now, I know I might get a lot of shit for admitting this, but I'm a cheater and I don't really care.
Do you believe your loved one is faithful and always has been? What are your thoughts on people who admittedly cheat?