I'm a person who values their privacy. Very few people can say they know much about me. Those that do, are a small group of close knit friends and family, if that. So when it comes to relationships, who I'm seeing, or my sex life, details are often very limited. Some may call it tight-lipped or reserved, I prefer the term "mindful." What goes on in the confines of my bedroom, or with whom, is my business. No?
Well, if you've answered yes, then I know there are some people that may also disagree with you and I: Those that have no issue with divulging some (possibly too much) information about their relationships and sexual gratifications.
If I'm honest, in my teens, I did exactly that. My best friend knew everything that went on with me. Who I slept with, who licked, who sucked -- everything! It's just a time when I felt the need to share stories and know what was being done; my exploring phase. But now as we've both gotten older, we're more guarded with certain things. Not everything we do as adults is need to know information. Sure, we both ask, but we don't always get the answers we seek.
It's mostly assumed that men are more open about their sexual exploits, just like it's assumed that men are the bigger "freaks" in bed -- most of which comes from their need to always talk about it. Women are more meticulous about who they talk to, letting their minds wander instead. For example: Don't tell this friend your boyfriend's penis size 'cause you might find yourself with an issue on your hands. Or don't tell that friend how good your sex life is because they'd soon want to find out for themselves.
I've never thought of any of these as reasons to NOT share tales. Mostly because my best friend is a lesbian, and she couldn't care less about penis anyway.
But, I'll let my friends know who I went out with last night for dinner. They'll know who I was talking to on the phone, why I didn't answer their call. We talk about sex and favorite positions. But as far as me going into specific details? It depends on how deep they want to get. However, the brakes are usually pumped before they go too far.
Are you someone that kisses and tells? How much information do you consider TOO much?