Most relationships start off under the conditions of monogamy. There's only one person you want to spend time with, kiss, go out on dates with, sleep with; just one. Neither has any desire to complicate it with anything extra. Together you plan to build as time progresses and see where things head.
But, what if being devoted to one individual soon becomes an issue and the option of an open-relationship is thrown out there?
Having an open-relationship is something that could either assist or demolish a bond. It depends on the agreement of the couple. Many celebrities have had almost a fixation with it (Jada & Will Smith
, Monique & Sidney Hicks
, Brad & Angelina Jolie
and once, Pink & Carey Hart
). It's seen as no big deal. Just eliminate the topic of "cheating" and label it "open" and you're good to go! But at what point does it become detrimental and not beneficial? Believe it or not, like most things, an open-relationship has both its pros and cons. Let's start with the top three pros:
The top four cons:
- It gives you the opportunity to live out your fantasies. What one doesn't do, the other one will.
- Allows you to keep your options open. If one doesn't work out, you'll always have something to fall back on.
- Brings the couple closer. When dealing with others, you tend to realize the value of what you have at home.
- You give up the right to claim sole priority. When sharing, you often have to deal with the demands.
- It can cause you to question your sexual capabilities. What am I not doing, why there is a need to go elsewhere?
- The risk of not practicing safe sex; bringing something other than themselves home.
- Emotionally, one may feel more than the other, drawing things further apart, rather than closer together.
I, personally, have never understood the point of an "open-relationship," when the option to remain single with no attachments, seems so much more palpable. But, if you're mature enough to deal with it, defining the cross lines, to each its own.Have you ever been in an open-relationship? If you haven't, is it something you'd ever consider? Why or why not?