I wouldn't say that I'm an introvert, but I do have a hard time understanding certain parts of the American relationship dynamic. I have a hard time chatting to a person through Texting or AIM because it just feels forced - the conversation isn't natural when I can't see their body language. Because of this, I often listen to my friend's amazing relationship stories to try to understand a female's mind better. Needless to say, the following anecdote succeeded in baffling me even more.
I won't go into too much details, but the gist of it is that my female friend, lets call her Susan, has been "seeing" this guy, lets call him Alex. Now the bare minimum details are that Alex broke up with his girlfriend of two years after knowing Susan for about two weeks (it's actually less, but lets round). Worse off, he actually did it in front of Susan, through Skype, to show how serious he was.
Right before he broke up with his girlfriend, Susan had told him that he shouldn't do it, that they didn't know each other, that it was a stupid thing to do
; afterwards, they made out.
When she told me this, I pretty much exclaimed, "What the fuck is wrong with you!" She said it was "sweet of him
" to bet everything on her despite not knowing if she was willing to form a relationship.
Is this something normal? Do girls really find recklessness endearing? I'm a pretty logical guy, I don't do things that are baseless, so maybe I'm biased. In my eyes, all I could see was that 1) He dumped his girlfriend of two years, 2) for a girl that he knew for two weeks, 3) FOR A GIRL HE KNEW FOR TWO WEEKS!
In high school, I walked three miles everyday before school to meet my girlfriend just so I could walk her to the bus stop because she was afraid of her neighborhood dogs. I know it's tooting my own horn, but I think that was endearing - not dumping my girlfriend and using that as leverage to somehow prove that I really like some new girl.
What swoons you? Have you done anything like that? Would you do something like that in hopes of swooning someone?