It can be very easy to feel third wheeled when hanging out with another couple or even with a pair of friends who may be a little closer than you are to either of them. It can even be easy sometimes to third wheel someone, even accidentally. My problem lately has been feeling third wheeled by my boyfriend and his little sister
I know that neither of them do it on purpose, but there are just a lot of things that I can't relate to or comment on because they're experiences that I have not had since I'm not in their family. Or when he and I are in the car, he puts on whatever music suits his moods, but with his sister he puts on music that they both enjoy listening to together so they can sing along. At first I found this to be cute, but after ten months, it's become pretty awkward, especially since it's music that I don't even dig in the first place.
When we go out together, more often than not it'll end up being the two of them talking and asking solely the other what their opinion on a product or a current affair or something is
. Hello, I'm here too! It's gotten to the point where the person I feel like from the outside, they may look like the couple with me tagging along behind.
I have tried casually bringing this up before, but to no avail. His reasoning is always that they don't see each other often (they live across the street from each other and hang out about 2-3 times/week). It's a hard argument to make and justify, because what can you say? You're too attentive to your sister when we hang out? In addition, I don't want to say anything that would make either of them feel awkward when we hang out because that could in turn put tension between my boyfriend and I.
This would be terrible because I love his sister and thoroughly enjoy hanging out with them and don't want to do anything to compromise that. It's a bit of a hard place, but what can I do? Do you ever feel third-wheeled with you SO and their sibling?image source