My friend recently told me she was going on a "man-cation." I found this odd because I couldn't remember the last time I'd actually seen her with a man. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I've always assumed a "man-cation" was a getaway from an actual man. Time by yourself, to reflect.
She explained that she had "friends" and she was tired of the "same ole, same ole." Once she started describing exactly what she was escaping and trying to avoid, I found it rather interesting. She said she was tired of being the one who had things together and knowing what she wanted out of life, while dealing with a guy who had no clear path or idea of how to make one. She was tired of waiting on potential.
I had to digest this information, because in my mind, everyone has some kind of promise. Whether they chose to embrace that and figure out where it may lead, was completely up to them. She explained that that was the exact issue. She'd be the sound board when things were rough and they felt they weren't getting enough chances, to take advantage.
But she started noticing that the guys she was dealing with were looking for more of a handout than an opportunity
. She couldn't see herself being on the verge of getting her college degree and being involved with someone who didn't even know if he wanted an education, let alone a career.
I had to laugh, because I'd been in her shoes, more times than I'd wanted or expected. Though I'd never gone on a "man-cation."I'm curious, have you ever found yourself waiting for someone to realize their potential, but they showed no progression and you struggled with whether to stay or move on? Often feeling like their unwillingness to make something of themselves was becoming a reflection of you?Image Source