I am going to relate to you a story of the most intimate thing I have ever done (and no it's not THAT). There was a post a week or so ago about summer flings that brought this memory to the forefront of my mind. You see, this happened at summer camp a number of years ago.
Those of you who have been to a summer camp know how quickly and passionately feelings develop. It must be something in the bug juice? Well that's what happened between me and a girl I met one year. From the moment she and I shook hands and introduced ourselves, we felt a connection. The next three days (it would have been five but I arrived late and she left early) we talked and flirted back and forth, much to the chagrin of our camp counselors.
But she was, as I said, going home early, and so on the final night I decided to make my move.
I was still a teenager and very unsure of myself, so the questions of how and when to let her know I liked her plagued me. But our group of campers was to put on a skit for the other groups. We (our group) decided to make our skit about masks.
The guys sat in front facing the other groups. The girls sat behind the guys. The girls tried to apply makeup to the guys from behind so that they couldn't see and we (the guys) would end up looking like clowns! My interest was behind me doing her best to make me look like a fool.
The message was all about authenticity and how, if you try and put on a facade, you end up looking like a fool. When the skit was over my interest and I went to sit in the back while the other groups put on their respective skits. That skit of ours was pretty much the last thing we were going to do together so I knew it was now or never.
So I leaned over so that she could hear me and asked if I could see her hand real quick.
She said, "Okay?" and held out her right hand. I took it in my left hand and held it. Oh my Lord did she melt. She leaned her head against my shoulder and said she was going to miss me. But that moment, the first time we held hands,
that was the first great example of the power of intimacy to me.
She and I loved it so much that we ended up dating for the rest of the summer and into the fall. It was long distance as neither of us knew how to drive yet, but it was a wonderful relationship that I'll never forget. Obviously, it all started with that one intimate moment of holding hands.
Do you hold hands with your significant other on a regular basis? Do you hold hands during sex? Do you remember the first time you ever held someone's hand?
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Awwwww, this is so cute <3
So nice :) I love holding hands :)
My boyfriend and I before we were dating had this sort of moment. He invited me to go to the observatory to see the stars for extra credit for his class. I have always wanted to go and said sure. The road we had to go down to get there was pitch black. At one point, it felt like I couldn't see my hand in front of my face. He grabbed my hand for a few seconds and I couldn't help but notice how small my hand was in his. I didn't want to let go at the time, but flashing light somehow came up behind us and scared us both.
I still remember the short moment of him grabbing my hand to hold onto me. 2 years counting! :]
oh wow, i thought you were a girl this whole time, and then thought you were a lesbian through half this entry. i think it's your photo that led me to that conclusion.
i should probably read people's comments a little more closely.
i think the most intimate moments i share with people are when my friends and i have to shit at the same time and go together. (in different stalls, obviously.)
oh yeah, and this one time i felt my friend's prosthetic nuts--he lost his real ones in high school. they felt like bouncy balls.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Haha. I'm a guy. I just liked that picture. It reminds me of Goldberry from The Lord of the Rings.
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my boyfriend and i do still hold hands. when he and i met, we were 2 of a group of about 5 people that hung out together all the time that school year in college. for about a month after we met, we never talked, but would make lots of eye contact and expressions at each other. i was very attracted to him the entire time, but was never sure what to do about it. finally one day as we were walking in our group from the union to our dorm, he slipped beside me and held my hand. it was very powerful for me - i remember my heart beating so fast...
and yes, we sometimes will hold hands during sex.
some guy had a crush on me during high school. he told me about his feelings later, so then I knew. I gave him a chance. he's pretty hot and tall for an asian. he had to lean down to talk to me. I have a tiny voice, so I made mini a makeshift microphone gesture with my hands to speak into his ear
my voice isn't that tiny, but I love talking to tall guys and it seems like we're keeping a secret when I'm talking directly into his eardrum, and then I see his crooked devious smile from his side profile, which I think is so cute. he didn't ask me or anything and just held my hand. I didn't flinch away but it just felt natural. I grabbed onto his hand tighter and we just walked like we're a couple. with some guys, I just cringe when they stand too close to me, but with him, it flowed. he proceeded to hug me later in the night. he hugged me so close that I could feel his bulge
we were hugging for a while and he was dry humping me methinks. I haven't been dryhumped before during a hug, but it was nice
his hand holding to hug-humping transition worked.sometimes professing your feelings for your crush works. he wasn't going to see me later after we graduated high school if we went to different colleges, so he professed his feelings and got to rub up against me as his last schoolboy wish
You write very well, very eloquently. It's also so very simple and sweet. Who would think that all you had to do to hold a girl's hand was to ask for it? Sometimes we make things so complicated.
On the last date I went on with this wonderful girl, I knew she liked me a lot while I was walking with her from the restaurant to my car and she reached out and grabbed my arm. She sort of moved closer to me and reached her right hand down to hold my left while her left was wrapped around my arm.
My boyfriend likes to hold my hand everywhere, and a lot, and it makes me really happy even though I sometimes don't want to hold it, probably because I switch handbag hands a lot :)
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - BAHAHAH hand holding hug humping, that's great... sometimes i rub my SO's bulge sneakily in public places on purpose... >:)
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holding hands is a very special connection with a person. we grab each others hand without even thinking bout it. its like they just belong together, like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle
@SexyKhoiFish@xanga - Thank you for the compliment.
I don't have a boyfriend now but with my x boyfriend (and future boyfriends/ future husband)I love holding hands when walking or talking, during making love and I love doing other physical sweet affectionate stuff. I also love emotional intimacy. I'm big on that.
I love this! I think a lot of us sometimes forget that this can be a very special step. A lot of times people skip this and just go straight to the first kiss. I need to remember this the next time I'm connecting with a girl.
The first time I held hands with my partner it was actually pretty fumbled and awkward. Knowing how relatively new it was to both of us made it rather special to me though. We have since gotten more practice with that one.
i remember when i was in 2nd grade i didn't realize i was holding hands with my guy classmate until people from the older grades asked why we were.
I love holding hands!!! This is such an adorable story.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Ha, same boat. Observant ones, we are...
@Gaia - You locked hands at your initial intro & deepened that same chemistry connection upon last chance departure from one another. And thus you were locked to one another throughout an entire season. Adorably endearing story. You write well.
I used to dislike hand holding in any context, but it's grown on me over time, in certain contexts. You're right...there is just something about it that's so..very..powerful.
Holding hands is pretty ballin'. I used to be pretty touchy with women when making out, but nowadays I really just like to hold hands while doing the spit swapping. And whenever a woman goes for my hand - that's really sweet. It's actually a pretty big thing for me, I guess.
I ALWAYS hold hands with my boyfriend. When I was a freshman in high school, I remember the first time I held my first boyfriend's hand. It was uncomfortable. I didn't really like it. Matter of fact he didn't really like me for me...and I didn't feel comfortable with holding anyone's hand until I dated my current boyfriend :)
There is nothing better than a loving touch. Sweet story. Where is she now? Have you kept in touch?
Thanks for sharing.
Christy