Us ladies, well...most of us, love to be pampered. Nail salon, hair salon, massage parlor, the works! Though they are time consuming, we enjoy each and every second when that time comes. Even with a simple trip to the grocery store, you can bet we're not just browsing for what to prepare for dinner. You are bound to find makeup, nail polish and shampoo in those bags as well. As women, this is often expected.
But what if you find yourself dating a man who focuses more on their appearance than you do?
The correct terminology for them is--metrosexual; some may say "the pretty boy."
Webster's definition is, a usually urban heterosexual male given to enhancing his personal appearance by fastidious grooming, beauty treatments, and fashionable clothes. But, if you're more of a visual person, then allow me...
Yea, I would say these men pretty much sum it up. Though sexy, you can tell their appearance means everything to them. As it should.
What woman wouldn't appreciate a well groomed, hygienic man? But how much of their bathroom cabinets do you think is actually devoted to their women and not them? That's when it gets pretty interesting.
But as with everything, there are some pros: Not having to buy much shaving supplies because he's sure to have them. No longer worrying about your comb or brush breaking, because you know he has extra. Going to the nail salon to get a mani/pedi, knowing you'll always have company because he's in the next chair. It could all either be a turn off or turn on.
How far is too far in the world of the metrosexual? Is having a man who's so caught up in his appearance something you love or hate? Image Source 1 Image Source 2 Image Source 3 Image Source 4
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Well they'll never smell bad:D lol
There's a difference between well-groomed and hygienic and being metrosexual. My boyfriend shaves and showers just about every day, but he still beats around in basketball shorts and a tee shirt when we're hanging out at his house or going to pick up Panera.
My Mom has the biggest crush on David Beckham. I think she secretly plots to put a hit out on Victoria so that she can claim him for herself. lol
I am confused. If it is his bathroom cabinet, why should any of it be dedicated to his girlfriend unless she lived there? Even if she came over all the time, he is not obligated to give her any space in his bathroom cabinet.
The majority of the men I have dated would be considered "metrosexual" and then I lost my mind and married my husband whose style and grooming causes me to slam my face into my palm. I know/knew a lot of men that spend more time grooming than I do. I didn't/don't think anything of it. I don't understand women who get freaked out that their boyfriends spend a lot of time grooming.
I really should read these more carefully. DUDE, I would never go get a manicure with my boyfriend. I never understood those couple's packages offered at spas. The spa is totally me time and I am 80% certain most of the guys I dated would have felt the same way.
@Erika_Steele@xanga - When speaking on the cabinet space, I was referring to the guys in the photo. Two out of three of them are married, so I assumed they share a home with their wives.
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@ReginaYS -I still don't see why it matters if a guy has more grooming products than the woman he is dating/married to. It just doesn't. Even in the smallest apartment that I have ever stayed in, there was enough room for two product whores to place their stuff away. The only time a man being a metrosexual is a problem is when he is
so stuck on himself that he doesn't think about or consider the
feelings of other people.
In those cases (the married celebs), I am sure there is more than one bathroom. Hell, even my husband and I have separate bathrooms. One of my friend's aunt said the best advice she would give a newlywed woman was to never share a bathroom with your husband. I did once and I never will again.
I probably wouldn't go get a mani/pedi with a girlfriend, but I would on my own or just with friends. As for being clean and hygienic I don't think that alone makes someone metro. Just taking care of themselves doesn't seem as such a bad thing, even if the girl they're with doesn't put in as much as the guy. I hate the term metrosexual though.
I wouldn't call my guy metro.However, he is scene, which means he spends more time with a straightner and blowdryer than I ever will in my life, haha(:
"girl" things in my cabinet: antihumectant, face lotion, vaseline (for chapped lips), tweezers, little scissors, and a little nail clipper. i never leave my apartment without nice pants (usually jeans), a proper shirt, and shoes on. (any guy who does, doesn't deserve to get laid.) BUT, i always have stubble of varying length, and i have no brush cause i have curly hair. do i qualify as metro?
also, not sure if it's relevant, but i also listen to really girly music like rihanna and beyonce. is that a factor too?
while we're on the topic of dressing and grooming, when the fuck did it become acceptable for girls to wear fucking flip-flops? this season has been fucking miserable for me. can't wait till it gets colder and you people pull out your leggings and heels again.
through dealing with this shit, sheesh.
I actually wouldn't mind as long as he doesn't give me lip about my grooming habits. You have your habit, I have mine.
^ Agreed.
I encourage manly grooming, but if he starts to look like russell brand then there's a problem
I dated a metrosexual and it was all fine at first. I was into metrosexuals at the time... but after a while it got to be a bit much. Never again!
If a fellow qualifies as "caught up in his appearance," I think that in of itself is too far; it feels like it implies something along the lines of so much interest in and worry over his appearance that he loses sight of other things, which seems downright bad to me. In fact, it seems like it would be bad regardless of gender.
Now, a man who cares about his appearance more than the supposed "average" or perhaps stereotypical male is fine. I'll admit, I often find I like pretty guys. Long or stylish hair, stylish clothes, nice cologne/aftershave/other fragrances, the whole nine yards - sexy. Admittedly, though, I don't spend a huge amount of time on my own appearance - I mean, I'm clean and what have you, but I'm not exactly done up to the nines every day - and I'd probably get annoyed with a man who was dramatically more high maintenance than me on a day-to-day basis. Especially if there were criticism involved, as some people have already mentioned.
i am not into pretty boys. i can't help it. sure, they look nice, but i'm not attracted to them. at all.
tyson beckford is very masculine all around from his hot bod to his sexy deep voice. his style is metro, but combined with his other features, he is still manly. beckham on the other hand, his voice makes him girly. the sleeve tatts, facial hair and toned body are hot until you hear him speak, which is a total turn off. mario lopez cheated on ali landry, so his appeal has dropped from cutie with the dimples to dbag.
This reminds of an episode of South Park I watched last night regarding all the men turning metrosexual...
Like the SP women, I prefer my guy manly as opposed to being over-the-top about their appearance. Good hygiene? Yes. Take care of yourself, workout etc.? Yes. Constantly worry about your looks and making sure you're "pretty?" No thanks. :P
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - "vaseline (for chapped lips)". "for chapped lips"... suuuuuure it is.
As for the flip flops, I'm just wondering what is it about flip flops that piss you off so much? Personally, for me, when I'm out running errands or just doing my daily activities (e.g., walking my dogs, grocery shopping), flip flops are convenient (easy to slip into) and comfortable. If I'm just doing routine things, I don't always want to go out of my way to look good, and I don't want my feet to be in pain while I'm doing daily activities. If I'm going out specifically for a nice dinner or a party, I'll wear heels, or if I feel like dressing up to look good, I'll put on some platforms or wedges. However, most of the time, I'm going to wear flip flops. At least during summer anyway...
But all those guys still look very manly. When would I be bothered by it? When he actually starts looking feminine. Even then, some girls like that. I like that my husband takes care of his appearance. Actually, I think the stereotype of guys NOT caring about how they look is way overdone. Most men that I know at least try to look presentable, they care about their weight and their clothes and so on. And I work in construction- these are not your three piece suit kind of guys.
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No, no, no. I like my men scruffy, a little smelly and ALL man. My boyfriend is a mechanic and I find him more sexy when he comes home from work covered head to toe in car oil than when he's had a shower, shave and is dressed up for a night out. Maybe I'm the weird one?
I see no problem taking care of myself as a male, face scrub, moisturizer, shaving soap, proper 1930 safety razor, skin firming cream, aftershave, manicure, pedicure etc. Just because we are male doesn't mean we have to be all stinky, unshaven, and badly dressed. I think it over steps the line when a male is so caught up in his appearance that he fails to show his love and care for his girlfriend. I wouldn't go and get a manicure with my girlfriend, but I would go by myself.
Second the flip-flops comment, why oh why to females wear such ugly and non functional footwear.
The 3 examples of men you pictured are very good looking, but I still feel they are very masculine. It a guy appreciates getting pedicures and moisturizing his face, who am I to judge? I don't mind clean and groomed, it is when they are " perfectly coiffed" that concerns me.
@textbookstuffxo@xanga - I agree, I don't mind a man who is a little rugged, rough around the edges.
pretty boys are fine. I would not say i like the phrase "caught up" in it, nor do i like the photo above with the man and the false eye lashes BUT I do respect a man that cares what he looks like.