Wednesday, 29 August 2012
Here’s the problem. Guys and Girls, you and I, we meet someone, and we put on a show. The show is called, “This is what it’s like to date the perfect me.” The show is usually so convincing, we fall for it. We forget it’s a show. We believe the Academy Award winning performance and we fall smitten! This is it! True Love! At last it’s here!
Eventually, this all changes. We become “comfortable.” We forget the act. We become Ourselves again. The Prince turns into The Beast. William Wallace turns into... well, Mel Gibson! And suddenly, we’re shocked! “I never signed up for this!” we cry out!
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is not new. And since we can’t stop the “act,” we need to stop “falling for it.”
Truth be told, no one is perfect. Human beings are animals that act on emotion, sometimes irrationally, and make mistakes. We’ve also been blessed with the ability to forgive, to learn from behaviors, and to adapt. The best relationships are the ones where you make a mistake, you own up to it, you (as a couple) discuss how you can be sure not to make those mistakes again, and you grow from it together.
Stop being shocked when the guy or girl you fall for has a side that is less than perfect. Sometimes those imperfections are sexier than the latest issue of GQ or Maxim.
Lastly, beware of the “First Act” that’s already making you give “Two Thumbs up!” – From personal experience, the CRAZIEST girls I’ve ever dated, started the relationship with phrases like, “I’m the type who NEVER gets jealous!" Guys, girls... if you hear that one, don’t wait for the ending, don’t ask for a refund-RUN!