Guys often do sketchy things that women choose to ignore in hopes of a potential future relationship with them. When you are initially dating someone, there are a lot of tell-tale signs that things will most likely not pan out the way you hope that they will. I have gathered the top 10 'red flags' that my friends have experienced and put up with in hopes of a successful outcome... needless to say, there was no outcome.
1) He is flakey about making 'definite' plans with you.
2) He does drugs whenever he parties, and also occasionally when he doesn’t, and also before dinner on a Tuesday… you get the point.
3) He doesn't invite you out with his friends.
4) Makes no effort to impress you or take you out.
5) You go days without hearing from him.
6) He tells you he isn't looking for anything serious. Every time he sees you.
7) He is more interested in hanging out with his friends on the weekend (without you).
8) You only see him after a night out i.e. he calls you after he’s had a few (many) drinks and wants to hook up.
9) He expects you to leave immediately the morning after.
10) He makes future plans with you, but never actually follows through.
Don’t forget ladies, you are not exempt from this list. If YOU do this to whomever you are dating – don’t be surprised if they get fed up and pull the plug! We aren’t always angels ourselves!
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Could have save some space and time by just saying "Your partner..." instead of all "He." Don't forget that there are lesbian couples too.
I think most of those items on this list become a problem when people don't DTR. One party just has a different perspective on how things should be than the other. Sort it out at the beginning so that you don't waste time. Relationships come in all shapes and sizes, figure out what works for you and if you don't mind compromising with the other person then even better.
11) You've finally woken up to the realization that love is nothing but fairy-tale bullshit and doesn't really exist in the real world and that people who actually believe in love are a bunch of delusional idiots.
12) You've finally woken up to realize that he thinks that love is nothing but fairy-tale bullshit and doesn't really exist in the real world and that people who actually believe in lover a bunch of delusional idiots--and thus, that you must wait for someone who does love you truly and selflessly.
My parents have loved each other that way for 30 years (in a way that shows, through and through), and my husband loves me this way, and I love him this way. It is very real.
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - Nice shot at me. How about you prove that statement with hardcore, scientific evidence? Don't rely on your emotions.
If you can't prove it scientifically, it doesn't exist. Period.
#1 is what women have a lot more trouble with than men. I've had so many flakes with women I just expect it to snow on the supposed day I schedule the date.
I'm more guilty of doing these things to guys I've been seeing than the other way around. Oops.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - Did oxygen not exist before it was scientifically proven to?
Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence, bitch.
http://x5f.xanga.com/fcff911771430282933161/o225580330.jpg
@T3hZ10n@xanga - Regardless, it can be scientifically and empirically proven to exist. Oxygen, though the atoms are tiny, is tangible.
The only things that truly are exist in the natural, tangible world. Nothing beyond the natural realm exists. Period, end of story.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - Observation is part of the scientific process. What you can see, experience.
I have seen my parents sacrifice for one another, compromise, kiss and hug one another, and stay by one another for 30 years. I don't need a scientist to confirm what I've seen. It's enough that I've seen it for myself.
It is possible to infer the best explanation for something from whatever effects you can see. No, love cannot be physically weight, measured, put into a test tube. But I see undeniable effects that lead me to believe...rather, know...that love is the cause. Just like when I can walk outside and see that the ground is wet and the sky is grey--I don't need a scientist to inform me that it's because it just rained outside. I can deduce that on my own.
It is the same when I see a couple like my parents. Love is there. Just because others haven't experienced it or observed it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - That doesn't mean that's the result of so-called "love." It could be the result of something entirely different that goes back to our animal-level biological programming (yes, humans ARE animals whether you want to accept that scientific fact or not).
Though, while we're on that topic, monogamy is entirely unnatural to humans, so that makes your parents not normal. Defective, if you will, for not following their natural programming.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - If monogamy weren't natural,the majority of people would have more than 1 penis and vagina respectively, tard.
I agree though. If you want to always have the same person, you might want to avoid someone who displays some of these tendencies.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - Wrong again. Dogs are polyamorous also, and quite frankly they only have one sex organ each. Trust me, I see all three of mine every goddamn day.
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - Well, I suppose is being bound to one sexual partner for one's entire life is your definition of happiness, who am I to say that's wrong? That would get extremely boring to me, though. I need a little more variety than that.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - It's not really just the sex part, though. It's also about having a deep relationship with someone. You could also have a best friend in the same way. It's like having a sex partner and best friend for a lifetime rolled into one--and the depth of emotions that comes from mixing those two roles. There's a cementing there, a connection that is very fulfilling.
I understand that not everyone wants that, though. Just wanted to share that there is something to a relationship between two mates that goes beyond initial sexual excitement. It's possible that that is what could be described as love.
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - Seeing as how my best friend is my Doberman Pinscher, I don't think that would work too well. That's called "bestiality" and is frowned upon in most societies.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biological_basis_of_love
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - Bleh. You're the first person in a long time I have been forced to accept as being just too stupid to effectively argue with, but I can tell that unlike most people, at least you're not a hypocrite and actually believe the shit you're saying. This pleases me.
Don't get me wrong, I still don't like you, but at least you're not dangerously stupid to the point of self-sabotage.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - Stupid, huh? You're arguing with someone who has a 160+ IQ as per the Standford-Binet scale. I'm far from stupid.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - Uh huh... now what does that tell you about the people I normally argue with, and what does that tell you about me?
@T3hZ10n@xanga - That they're vastly inferior to me and you're only bowing out because I'm calling you to the carpet and I'm smoking you to pieces.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - Ha! Yeah. Probably not...
Dogs can be great friends.
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - Absolutely. I bond with (non-human) animals much easier than I bond with human beings. At least they don't stab you in the back like all of your human friends invariably will at some time or another.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - I've felt the same way...animals are very unconditional in their relationships to their masters.
He only sees you when he asks to see you has been a lot of my past experiences. When I tried to initiate hanging out they ignored it. It was only on their own time. So it was refreshing for a change when I finally found someone who actually wanted to hang out with me when I asked and not just when he made the plans.
#10 Used to happen to me and this one other guy a lot. He would tell me he's on his way over in 10 to 15 minutes...I wait and wait and wait and he never showed. That pissed me the hell off especially when he contacted me first. The least he could do was tell me he wasn't coming. That's just being courteous. So the next time he pulled this stunt again, I ignored his texts.
Here's another, they say they don't want a commitment, but then get into an official relationship with someone else a week later. Just be blunt. I'm a big girl, I can handle rejection. I hate mind fucks.