I once had a college roommate who always had to be around her boyfriend. Everywhere they went, they went together. There was rarely a time you saw the two apart. She loved it that way. But you could tell that he wasn't always plastering a genuine smile on his face. Then, one day I found myself asking her out of curiosity...
Do you think there is such a thing as spending TOO much time together?
In the beginning of a relationship, you can't get enough of each other. You want to spend as much time as you possibly can in that person's presence. It's normal; the infatuation. It's a part of bringing one another closer together. The honeymoon phase.But does there become a time when you value your time away from your significant other?
I've always believed in giving people their space. Yes, I love you and want to spend as much time with you as I can. That's why we're in a relationship. But, we don't have to be connected at the hip. I enjoy missing you. Knowing that you have a life outside of me, but I'm where you'd rather be.
When I asked my old roommate that question, she looked at me as if she'd never pondered it. Which I'm sure she hadn't. She was clearly suffocating him. It had gotten to a point where he felt obligated to always have her near. She'd call him angry if he went out with his friends without her. Or if he even went to the store. It was a little much. Have you ever felt smothered by your significant other? In a relationship do you feel giving space is an important factor? Image Source