Saturday, 25 August 2012
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"Love" at First Sight
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It always makes me cringe when people say it was "love at first sight." In my personal experience, I've had someone say that he was in "love" with me the moment he laid eyes on me. I was just weirded out and wanted to run the other way. He was serious about that because he's been stalking me for the past 8 plus months, and says he "loves" me every week to the point where I want to put a restraining order on him. Then again, I'm also appalled at the fact that this stalker is at least 45 years older than me.
All I know is he has a head full of gray hairs and shouldn't be going after someone my age. I only think it's true love at first sight if both parties return the same feelings to each other. If I had a daughter and this creep was doing this to her I would tell him to, "Get Lost."I think it's all lust, including someone knowing a friend for years, until people really get to personally know the each other and not with other people around for some time. Knowing someone for years then going on an intimate first date is still lust to me. Only if people are serious about each other does it become more than just lust.
Do you believe in "love" at first sight? Have you said this to someone and had them reciprocate it?
What is "lust" and what is "love?"
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You have to grow to love someone.
I lust after a dictator in 1976 because he was hot!
I definitely don't love "him" but I have an imaginary version that I love.
He's everything I want and invisible. What could be better?
You can be attracted to someone at first sight, but i think love requires knowing the person. I don't think you can love someone until you know their faults.
Besides a stalker doesn't love you, they idolize and are obsessed.@Cho_0705@xanga - "...but i think love..."
Not even a whole sentence in and you already failed.
If "love" to you is not synonymous with a name by automatic subconscious association, if you don't immediately have a mental image of someone when you hear or read the word, it is not love. To truly love someone is to recognize the person as the embodiment of your feelings (e.g. "I don't just love her, she is my love").
"I only think it's true love at first sight if both parties return the same feelings to each other."
You're predictive to a fault.
Life can only be lived and experienced in the first person for all intents and purposes. You cannot possibly determine the feelings of another person at any given time with absolute certainty. Well, I take that back. You can be absolutely certain that you know how someone else feels... but that doesn't change the fact that you could still very well be wrong regardless.
That's why there's this little thing people refer to as "trust".
If someone tells you they love you, not believing them is a sickeningly selfish thing to do.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - And you've already failed once again in your pathetic advice. Please don't quit your day job whatever it is. It is not real love until people get to know each other inside and out.
aka 'Lust at first sight'
I maintain love is just a delusion and a side effect of lust.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - Wow I did not catch the part where i asked you for your opinion.
To have an altering opinion is respectable, but to claim your opinion is the only right one is pathetic. In fact I have no issue with your opinion, my only issue with you is that you're unbelievably full of yourself.
Also don't reply to this post i'm simply talking AT you and not TO you.
@Guest - No, tard. Your feelings are the only ones you need to be concerned with.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - You must be one of those little teenagers who believes everything you read in the tabloids. Like someone hasn't ever misused a "word" or made up a lie before, Lol.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - Hunny at least I know the difference between love and lust. You don't. You take everything at face value according to your definition believe what everything someone says. And you're the tard. What are you 5?
@Cho_0705@xanga - My opinion of love is the only right one for me... it's the only one I need to know to successfully love another person.
People are so fucking stupid it hurts.
@Cho_0705@xanga - Ignore that troll. He picks on everyone's comments. I told him before, too, I don't mind that he has is own opinions. It's when he comes barging in here like he's the king of dating when I'm willing to bet that he's a geekazoid who has no friends that's why he's always acting like a hot shot on datingish.
@Guest - I don't know the difference between love and lust because I don't lust for anyone I don't love.
Tard.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - I SPY WITH MY LITTLE EYES A BIG FAT HYPOCRITE
you still maintain that my opinion is wrong even though you admit "My opinion of love is the only right one for me"
Then don't go correcting others. Yeah i'm sorry you're so stupid too.
@Cho_0705@xanga - you're being equally rude. This is not your website.. He can talk back if he wants to. He has every right to talk back.
We love T3. We understand him and his gibberish.
@Guest - he's my friend. :P
@Colorsofthenight@xanga - Lol, I'm sorry that he's your friend. I couldn't put up with "friends" who think they're always right, HAha. that sucks that he is your friend, but I'm talking about friends he can physically see, not online friends.
@Cho_0705@xanga - "I SPY WITH MY LITTLE EYES A BIG FAT HYPOCRITE"
Immediately followed by:
"Then don't go correcting others."
YOU ARE CALLING ME A HYPOCRITE WHILE AT THE SAME TIME CORRECTING ME BY TELLING ME NOT TO CORRECT OTHERS.
Not to mention I have a fairly athletic build.
Lust at first sight is pretty common, though I think lust at first conversation could be possible. Just depends how intense the conversation gets. Might not be huge love but can be the start of love.
I don't believe in love at first sight, but I completely and totally believe that one can be instantly attracted to someone at first sight, and a crush can begin after only spending a small amount of time with someone. Case in point: My husband and I. We met in person in Jan '08 after corresponding through text for a month (we "met" on a dating site just before Thanksgiving '07). The morning after our first date, he asked if I wanted to date exclusively. We were engaged in March, and celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary last month.
As far as the stalker is concerned, you should put an end to it, NOW. Tell him to leave you alone or you'll take legal action. You never know if someone is dangerous or not, and I would say it's better to be safe than sorry.
@Colorsofthenight@xanga - I love that you refer to me as T3.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LqMp9irMU70&feature=youtu.be&t=1m12s
I lust after my boss crush. however, I also daydream about other things besides sexually. I'm more of a secret admirer of his because I think he is wonderful in nearly every way. I daydream about hanging out with him sometimes. I see him walking by while talking and laughing with his guy friend. I think I want to be his best friend more, then some people might see us and wonder what's so funny that we're talking and laughing about. I want to talk to him but it often seems like he's preoccupied talking to his guy friend, so it isn't polite to just intrude into their conversation. maybe I can break the ice by slapping his shoulder and start laughing along. then they'll look at me like, who is she
and it'll turn awkward and they'll probably hate me for disrupting their previously funny conversation whatever they were talking about. I wonder what's so funny. I should just ask, but I want to make a good first impression, not be known as the funny conversation disrupter
I'm jealous of whoever the guy is that he's having funny convos with
he should be having those convos with me
but he probably doesn't even know I exist. I don't worry about these things with someone that I simply lust after. I think I like him more than that, not quite love, but I like him a lot. although my feelings are likely heightened by his mysterious charm.
Wow who'd guess this post would be taken over by trolls.
OP: I don't believe in love at first sight either. People who claim they experience it probably equates love to physical attraction (lust) or intrique (probably from a manifestation of an ideal to a physical person or a projection of yourself onto the said person). Who really know and can define what "love" is? You'd probably understand it if you (think you've) experienced it.
I think that there definitely can be intense sexual attraction immediately.. Love takes longer to develop, in my opinion. Shared experiences, time...and lots of it...talking and sharing of oneself with the other person..
Love can develop from intense sexual attraction but it takes time.
To the OP: Can you say restraining order?