Friday, 24 August 2012
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People Who Like Being Called Demeaning Names
This post was submitted anonymously.
There are people who use these hurtful words to insult individuals they resent, and then there are the people who walk proudly with their chin up being called these names. I've never understood why there are people out there who actually like the attention from being called "sluts," "whores," and the like. Is it because of low self-esteem?Do you know someone who likes this kind of negative attention? Is it because their way of dealing with people's gossip is to accept that they actually are those words? I never got this phenomena. Are you a person who actually likes being called these terms? If so, all I see this as is that you're only degrading yourself by liking to be called such words. Please don't put yourself down like that. Joking about it is one thing, but proudly accepting being called that is another.
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I usually embrace being called such names because if their point was to hurt you, and you show them that you're not actually hurt, they lose. In fact, I play along to the point where I take it way farther than they intended to and they get very uncomfortable. I then proceed to do the Joker laugh and roll away.
It is a reaction to a very personal character trait. If someone derives pleasure from it, just accept it and go on. You don't have to call them names if you don't wish to. They probably would be shocked at it coming from an unexpected source. I know many folks who get pleasure out of humiliation, the foster that humiliation just to get the "rush", whether it be emotional, sexual, or some other quirk. Just because you don't understand it, don't assume it's a flaw. Not everyone is wired the same.
what? i wasn't aware that people still call each other names after high school, except for maybe sorority girls.
oh, and chicks with mustaches too. is waxing that shit really so difficult?
WTF? Slut is only 4 points in scrabble? :(
I can't say for sure, but I'm pretty sure those types of people don't really mind name-calling because they are confident in who they are.
OR
They might be whatever name they are called, and are truthful with themselves.
and people, who enjoy being called those names in bed
there was a guy, who called me a slut when we were dirty talking, and I called him a manwhore to continue to set the mood. apparently, it wasn't a turn on for him. another double standard besides the give to receive oral is the anal thing. one guy wanted to touch me there
but when I asked him if he would let me do it back to him, it was an immediate, no. I wasn't into anal sex, but then he got me curious about it and I suddenly wanted to peg him
he wouldn't let me
so what I'm saying is if he wants to call me names or do other stuff to me, then be prepared when I stick it back to him full force
but he wants to dominate me, so if I peg him, then he'll feel like a daisy
I duno why this turned into anal sex, but it did. in other contexts, idk, they are weird.
I think that ya maybe you are trying to show the other person(who ever called you a demeaning name) that it doesnt bother you. But the people who see you doing that might think that you actually look at your self that way. Im sure there is a way for you to show the other people that they cant hurt you but also by not hurting yourself.
Either way the only thing that matters is how you think about yourself!
I had wonder about that years ago. I just find it to be disrespectful and demeaning, but may others think it's cool. Who knows.
It's anti-social behavior. It also shows a disrespect for oneself and a distinct level of immaturity of the user's character. Private is one thing, public is another.
Well, if you're like me, and you've been called every name in the book for no apparent reason, it gets to where it really Doesn't bother you after hearing it for so long. I could give a fuck less who calls me names these days. Ya know why? Cause I really just don't care what people think about me, (especially people I don't know very well, or at all) and I probably don't care about the person that's calling me that anyways.
So no, it's not a matter of "liking" that type of thing. It's just a matter of choosing to not let petty, immature shit like that bother me anymore. But, everyone is different, I guess...
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Haha so random, but I've been in that situation many a time.
I think you got it backwards I think it shows they have high self esteem and/or self confidence in themselves that if someone calls them a demeaning name it doesn't matter to them and they'll just be like yeah so what I'm a slut? Then there are a few strange people who like going around calling themselves weird things like "Damn I did david, tony, alex, steve and louis last month. Oh man I'm such a whore! Hahahaha." But they tend to be young and just looking for reactions, at least the ones I've known like that.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - oh man, this made me laugh. Did you ever peg him? I dated a guy who liked me to stick a few fingers up there, which is fine with me, but I've never known how to broach the subject with other boys. "So....want me to finger your butt?"
@JusticeCho@xanga - you've been in the name calling situation or she asked if she could peg you
@meetmeunderthestars@xanga - I wouldn't use my fingers, but I'd peg him...if only he let me
dear xangans, which one you guys secretly want to be pegged? tell me now!
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Hmm both, but I was mainly referring to your poking a guy in the booty hole part.
@JusticeCho@xanga - your phrase for pegging is so adorable:D pokey in de booty hole. it sort of reminds me of plucky when he says...water go down de hole(the flooded toilet episdoe from tiny toons)
I enjoy using names like those in bed. Is it from too much porn, rap music, misogynistic culture, or what? I don't know. It doesn't really matter why. Some people are into it, some people aren't.
Proudly accepting something that is considered an insult shows the person insulting you that you cannot be broken. It's pretty brave, actually.
@aCe_KeiAnar@xanga - I appreciate that your biggest upset in this blog was the Scrabble points. Haha
@AllthatisRachel@xanga - It breaks down to sticks and stones. I really can't feel bad for someone who is so sensitive about name calling.
I think there are other ways where people can let it be known that the name calls don't bother them:
IE: ignoring all the rumors and insults instead of accepting them
Accepting it full on is just simply self degrading in my opinion. I don't mind when people use such words you know hot and heavy in bed. It's as others have said that they proudly accept everyone calling them that in public and even call themselves that.
I couldn't take someone seriously in a relationship if they wanted to be known as a "slut," "whore" or other terms.
i guess it's just a different perception on things. the meaning of it is appealing to them
@aCe_KeiAnar@xanga - I agree with you, completely, of course.
I think some people like it so they can come on Xanga and blog about how they don't care cause they're so above it, how other people are too judgemental, or boo hooo hoo, why do people call me ugly names?
Attention.
My issue is that it usually means you are ACCEPTING the crap that comes with the name.
I had an aunt who was divorced in the 40's.
Most of us have NO notion about really being shunned, or ostracized.
She did. As a "divorced woman" she was treated barely a step higher than a whore.
And when you accept the judgement that comes with demeaning names, you are also sending a "Don't worry...you can treat me like a thing instead of a person" message, and that can be dangerous.
@AllthatisRachel@xanga - Can you really blame me, I mean, it's 4 lousy points :/