In just a few short weeks, summer will be over. In May, when the temperatures first started to warm, such a time seemed forever away. But all too soon, children will be in school as the leaves start to change color. Don't get me wrong. I love fall. I love the excitement of a new school year, the tartness of a cup of hot apple cider, the fresh smell of leather on my new boots. But fall is a season of change, whether good or bad.
Summer is a season of promise, of long days at the beach and long nights with a lover. It's a breath of fresh air in a long, dull year.
And what better way to enjoy the season of promise, so fleeting and yet so long, than with a summer fling? I've never had a summer fling. The closest I've gotten was the time I dated this boy in Puerto Rico, where it wasn't officially summer but it certainly felt like it. I didn't really know what he and I were doing, and I was leaving in a few weeks so it definitely felt fling-like. But he's now my long-distance boyfriend, so I don't think he really counts.
I've always idolized the idea of a summer fling. A relationship just for the summer sounds fabulously poetic. But although great in country, I think it would be painful in practice. I get attached fast, and parting may be sorrowful but it's certainly not sweet.
That said, summer flings are quite common, and I want to know about yours. Whether it was this summer or just a memory that stands out is up to you.
Who was it? How did you meet? How did it end?
Most of all - was it worth it? Image Source
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Didn't have one.
I had a wonderful summer fling twelve years ago. I still remember the person fondly and their birthday is coming up in September. Ah....young love....
very very worth it, but totally not something to idolize.
No one. *sad face*
None here, however I'm more a fan of autumn-fling... the days get shorter, the nights get colder, and people start looking for something snuggle up to. Let the seasons work the magic for you.
One of my first relationships was one of these, with a girl from Alaska I met while in Australia. And yes, it was very painful breaking up at the end of six weeks when we had to go back home.
my vibrator.
My CPA exams and the Becker review.
notice how the sunset in the photo seems so small. that's how big it really looks - I mean how tiny!
When you see a big fat whopper sun setting, and you take a picture of it, it looks this tiny. WTF? yep, your brain is playing tricks on you. Try it next time you see a whopper sun )or moon) rise or set and have your cell phone with you....tiny sun, tiny moon. The camera doesn't lie. Your brain does. So...maybe when you are strolling the beach and Mr. Wonderful happens to wink at you...maybe your brain is playing tricks on you too....reality is a different story....reality is where the challenge to love becomes a commitment.
Summer is a bad time to meet people when you're chubby. I am pale and wear shorts over my bathing suits and usually end up sunburned and icky.
Boring summer, or I just don't get out much I guess.
This was my first summer single since I was 17 and I'm 22 now. I can't think of any summer flings though. There's been a few guys I've hung out with, but nothing fling worthy haha or more than hanging out once worthy. I wanted to have a summer fling so that we could do crazy things that can only happen in summer like sex on the beach or skinny dipping at the beach at 3 am, but never happened. I guess I still have a few more weeks before it gets too cold for either of those things though :p
my hot boss. It was the a independant contractor job so I knew we wouldn't be working together on a long term basis. We flirted a lot and both were attracted to each other. We ended up spending all our time together while we worked on that project. It wasn't long and I was definitely sad to see him go but I knew going into it that it was a fling and because of our lifestyles and jobs we are both on the road a lot so I knew it couldn't really work out but it didn't stop me from enjoying what time we did have together. I don't regret it at all.
my husband
my partner was my fling - it was fun.
I had an awesome summer fling when I was 18. We both worked up at this little camp way up in the mountains. We'd go hiking together, find secret spots, make campfires for just the 2 of us...it was all super romantic. One of our mornings off he slipped me a note at breakfast that said "wanna go to san fran?" and on a whim we took off to san francisco for the day, with no plans, no agenda. One night we slept on the beach. Ahh, it was all very sweet. At the end of the summer we buried a time capsule on a little island that he rowed us out to. And then I went half-way across the country to college and he went back to his job and we didn't see each other again for like 5 years.
It would of had to be a few summers back, I was 16. I made friends with a girl named Jessica, She ended up being my best friend of 6 years in the long run. Anyways, His name was chris, I had knew him previously from dating an acquaintance of mine. I had gone over to my friend Jessica's house and he lived right next door, He also happened to be her cousin. One night, we started talking as more than friends, It led to us walking about a mile to an abandon house. I can't even remember why we were going there or for what, But we ended up inside and i lost my virginity to him that night. Afterwards, i remember standing on this bridge and his arms were around me and i was facing him. Jessica's boyfriend Derrick asked us if we were dating now and he looked down pushed my hair out of my face, smiled and said yes. I was litterally grinning from ear to ear. In the end i started feeling really weird towards him, He seemed extremely clingy and it was just odd. So, i ended it.. not in the nicest way possible. But i was young and stupid and didn't realize that i had a good guy at the time. We didn't talk for about 5 years due to the fact that he hated me. This summer, he got into a car accident, i didn't realize how much i cared about him until i got that call. I found my way to the hospital with Jessica as humanly possible as i could. It was weird at first and he did want to see me. I ended up going there almost everyday till he got out, One of the times i left he tricked me and asked me why i was leaving without a hug so i leaned down to hug him and he kissed me. A lot of feelings came rushing back into my heart without warning. Keep in mind that he has a child with another girl. Well when he got out of the hospital we hung out a lot. I spent the night at his house almost like every other night of the week. We had a lot of heart to hearts laying in bed next to eachother. He's always had this way about him where he was extremely confusing almost kind of an asshole but if you understood him you'd know he didn't mean it like that. Anyways, we were laying in bed one night and we happened to be talking about some stuff that i'd rather not disclose, i told him something and he said " i'd glad you didn't do that" and i asked why and he came out and said " because i care about you". I had never had someone just come out and say that to me, my heart just lit up. Come to find out he had been sleeping with the mother of his child and other women all along. I found out was heart broken for a bit but got over it. I am glad that i experienced that though, because it was just as bitter as it was sweet. I wont forget him telling me that he loved waking up when i was their because he enjoyed waking up holding me. I don't know. Just a bittersweet romance that i learned from and will never forget.
my fingers
It was not really summer but I met someone while I was studying abroad and in 5 months, we went from strangers to friends to lovers. Parting was hard but expected. We still occasionally chat and we wish each other the very best. I hope that I can see him again... One day...
Well I work on cruise ships, so many relationships that happen on the ship are similar to the summer fling as you are describing it. While you are both on the ship, you are spending plenty of time together, but unfortunately, it often happens that one of you will be leaving before the other, and it can be difficult to end up on the same ship again, so it often just needs to end after the month or 2 or however long it was you were together.
I had one that had a particularly big impact back in November. This girl got to the ship I was on, and we just clicked very quickly. I spent a whopping 12 days as best friends (which turned into slightly more) with her, and then sadly, I was already scheduled to leave the ship.
It was really short... and yet, if I have ever been in love, it's with her. We still chat, but I'm fairly confident she doesn't feel the same way about me, even if distance weren't an issue.
I met this amazing guy in June. Very good looking.. hilarious.. such an awesome personality. Our summer consisted of laughter, food (cause we both admire food) and just a good time. Unfortunately summer has come to an end.. and he's gone back to his country.. but i will always have in my heart, forever.