Thursday, 23 August 2012
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The Past Meets the Present
This post was submitted anonymously.
This might be similar to The Lingering Ex, except what I am asking is, have you ever become best friends with your ex's current flame instead of resented them?My "ex" will always be in my life. I've known him since elementary school, our parents' houses are around the corner from each other so we're pretty close, literally. I've visited my "ex" when he moved 4 hours away, and now to his new place 3 hours away. He comes up to see me weekly and we talk on a daily basis. Even when he's in town he doesn't visit his family as much as he does me.
We've been through one heck of a roller coaster and he's been there for me more than some of my girl friends have. He thinks it's weird to meet my current lust. And on the flip side, my current lust has a lingering ex, too. I don't know about that though because women get jealous easier than guys do. She's still very much present in his and his family's life. When I went to hang out with the current lust's family, his mom mentioned her moving.
I don't know if they broke up because of the distance or what, but needless to say I got a little jealous. I know I'm a hypocrite if I get mad for the "forever ex" still being in the picture because my ex will always be best friends with me, too.It's really a weird situation and a small world. We're so comfortable with each other that lingering "ex" drove me up to where a friend and my current lust live. My ex has even met his parents and shook his parent's hands. I chuckled at the awkwardness. Although, he did say he didn't want to hang out with me and my friends up there if my current lust was going to be there.
Have you ever hung out with two people you have had a thing with? Did it turn out okay? One of my friends invited all her past flings to her going away party and that totally wasn't "weird" at all. It's only "sex" right?
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Yeah, well. In my teens I dated a lot of guys who were friends. They were all my type so sooner or later I'd gone on dates with three or four of them. It wasn't really awkward. We were all close. As I get older it gets even less awkward.
I've hung out with two people I had flings with, but not on purpose. I don't hang out with old flings unless we were friends before the fling.
One of my exes is one of my very best friends. And he is also very good friends with my fiancé....and is also good friends with another of my exes. It happens...we've all matured and moved on, so it's really not awkward at all.
this is why i don't date in my social circle or within 3 degrees of freedom thereof.
Yeah I've been there. It gets easier the more time goes by that you've been broken up and strictly platonic. But I would be a hypocrite, too... I don't want to be within a mile of a girl my [non-existent] current boyfriend has even kissed.
if you can do it then why not?
it depends on the reason why you broke up; on good mutual terms or bitter angry terms. I mean, who would really want to be friends with an ex, who cheated or some other terrible reason. that's like pretending to be the bigger person by being friends with the killer, who murdered your best friend. who does that
I don't resent any woman that a-guy-that-I'm-interested-in goes out with, but I don't go out of my way to befriend her. I did want to befriend this one (serious) girlfriend of my ex (that I was still into) because she seemed really cool and nice, but I didn't because I knew it would bother him (it would be kinda weird...)
The last guy I dated was dating other women (and was upfront about it) and it didn't bother me when he talked about other girls that he was interested in. Plus it was an easy way to find out what kind of girl he's looking for.
It's an issue of maturity, and whether or not you're still into the guy, and how the two of you broke up...
It's only sex if there's no emotions involved, but I wouldn't want to be put in that situation.
It just sounds messy. I'm all for being on friendly terms with exes, but there still should be boundaries, I think.
Hmm.. I can't say I've ever really stayed friends with an ex since I'd been in high school (I'm 22 now) but I also don't know if I'd want to stay friends. I mean, if things just fizzled out but you discover you make great friends, then sure. But the long relationship filled with all the ups & downs & maybe ending without much closure just needs to end & move on.
Your friend sounds more like a taxi driver
Quit taking him for granted and find another way to reach his penis.Why do you still have so much contact with your 'ex'. ??? Sounds as if he is NO ex...but is still very much in your life.
Isn't it hard to still see or talk to him regularly? Decide whether you want him in or out of your life. You are killing him emotionally...I don't really think you want to do that.
@LeeKymKween@xanga - How about you fuckin' shut up? You have no idea how much I've invested in this friendship either. You only know one thing he's done for me but you have no fuckin' clue all the things I've done for him. Giving the post zero eProps because you assume? When you assume you make an ass out of u and me. I didn't want to waste my time typing every little detail of this fwb, jack ass.
@LeeKymKween@xanga - By the way, after all of the things I've done for him, driving to see me is the least he can do, especially when he knows I don't have a good working car. So I'd quit while you're ahead with the assumptions.
@LeeKymKween@xanga - And for the record, that day he had to drive me there, I told him I had other plans with people in a different city that was 45 minutes away. He said he wanted to hang out with me before I hung out with those people because I told him other people wanted me to go with them, but he said he would drop me off if I could hang out with him before I went; I already had another way there but he wanted to take me. So what do you have to say now you assuming troll?
@OP - LMAOOOO too long didn't read
waaaaaaaaaa call the wambulance
who mad?
u mad!
no idea why the fuck any guy would want to even bang you, you talk too much LOL
@LeeKymKween@xanga - You know what you can do with your zero eProps? You can shove them up your ass you arrogant asshole. Every time we would go out on a fun trip I would always pay for the gas and expenses. Whenever he would come visit me I would pay for his gas. Whenever we would go anywhere I would always pay for the gas. If I were you, I would seriously consider removing your zero eProps.
@LeeKymKween@xanga - because I am not in the mood for anyone's fuckin' shit on here after we got into it last nite. You can get the hell over yourself.
LOL @ the amount of anger you've been exerting in your previous comments. You should make a dear diary.
I appreciate the effort you put in justifying your reasons for using your ex as a taxi driver (Y) Wow I bet he's sooo ecstatic when you give him some fuel to take you around to get the other dude's penis LOL.
awww are the zero eprops are hurting your poor poor ego? boooo :'(
Did you get your cheeks clapped from behind too hard last night?
it's okai OP *pat pat*, there there~