It's not the size of the ship, it's the motion.
The size question has been plaguing men since practically forever. Unfortunately, the answers to this question are about as varied as the penises themselves. Some people say that yes, size does matter. Other says it matters only if it's at either extreme. There are people who say it's all about how you use it, and those who say that, actually, it's about the width. Still others claim it's a combination of all three.
Unfortunately, I am completely unhelpful here because all the guys I've slept with were roughly the same size. Of course, some were slightly better in bed than others, but not by much.
If I were to hazard a guess, I'd say it's a combination of all three but mostly about how you use it. More importantly, I think it's about how well you 'fit' with your partner. I find that you're sexually compatible with some people and not with others, so it's about finding the right way to do it with the right person. I'm not particularly experienced, though, so I could be wrong.
But I love the quote in the icon above, and she's absolutely right. In a relationship, there are so many more things that matter than the size of one's penis. If we're just having sex, however... well, I don't have the answer for that.
What's the answer to this age-old question? Does size matter?
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I've only been around one penis so all this is conjecture. I'm assuming the one penis I've encountered is average and I am always left smiling by him and his owner. I guess being near average matters. Laughably tiny would probably be a letdown and massive wouldn't get in the door easily or most of it would be left out cold....
Yes. That is why I always buy a really big bouquet of flowers for my dates, drive a really large car, live in a massive house, and have a really large smartphone.
But seriously, size matters more in terms of resource provision than it does in terms of anatomy, although adequate anatomical features do help.
Yes size does matter...only its not his penis, its the size of his heart.
Size does matter to some women. Not me, though. I'm more into the girth rather than length. In all my relationships, I haven't been with a guy who was exceptionally well-endowed. They were all pretty much average. It wouldn't matter to me anyway because they made my toes curl regardless of their size. I prefer this saying instead, "It's not the length of the wand, but the magic you do with it." Cheesy and lame, I know.
@Nous_Apeiron@xanga - Amen. It's the size of the bank account that often matters more than the heart or the penis nowadays.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - I always like to make sure they have a trust fund before I sleep with them.
@Saridactyl@xanga - Smart girl.
if all your boyfriends were of similar skill, it's probably because they were all virgins (if i understood your other post correctly).
@Nous_Apeiron@xanga - @QuantumStorm@xanga - as much as i hate to defend girls in the dating arena, i kind of have to disagree, sort of--i am 100% sure girls get no indication of my money, unless they're getting it from my clothing (if they're getting it from my apartment, it's a moot point at that point, lol). my first date budget is about 8 dollars (6 if i'm not in ny) and i don't go above 20 for the next 2 (15 if i'm not in ny). i have never gotten an outright complaint "shouldn't we have gone to dinner", though i have definitely heard plenty of my girl friends speculate that i would get more second dates if i was willing to dish more money on the first. i have had girls say "don't you want to go out for a few drinks first?" -- girl speak for "i'm not going to put out, but want to drink on your tab" -- and i say no every time. funny story, once i was at this club and dancing with this girl (i was really, really shitfaced this night) and she asked after a couple of minutes, "are you in vip?" i responded saying "get your own job, make your own money, and buy your own drinks" then walked away.
i've also met a *lot* of guys in dc who say that in georgetown, girls will straight up fucking ask you how much money you make. i've never been asked that, but i almost want to so i can say something really fucking rude back to her.
but i mean, yeah, let's call it for what it is--the vast majority of modern dating is really just glorified prostitution. i'm not your fucking post-college meal plan.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - Thanks for the support.
Although I would think that it would be the opposite currently in the U.S. After all, even the genuinely poor in our country (such as me right now) are still able to live a far more comfortable lifestyle than folks of previous generations, and government assistance for the poor as well as unemployment benefits help keep people's resource and income levels fairly secure. And if resources are not as scarce or easily lost, I would expect to see fewer people making their mating decisions primarily based on the ability to provide resources. Which is actually what I see even among middle-class and poor folks most of the time. It's anecdotal, but it's what I have.
Of course, even with bit of a decrease in the trend, it's still the trend. Far be it from me to say that I don't often hear women my age who discuss their dating prospects mentioning a lack of stable employment as an important factor. Because I do. I just hear it less than before.
... That's the answer.
Different people will have different opinions, hence it's subjective. Same as boob size. People have different likes and dislikes.
I think it has to do with the right fit, for sure. I've been with big and small. It's as if your vagina forms to fit theirs like a glove, if you're compatible. I dunno how to explain it. But it's like men complain of "loose women" or "small dicks" complained by women.... depends on the chemistry in the end, in my opinion. Sexual chemistry together.Of course there are cases of extremely small, skinny penises and loose vaginas that are ridiculous, how can you have sex in that case thats enjoyable if it's just so blatantly obvious that the others genitals are too small, too huge, or you too loose or tight it hurts. Ah. Sexual chemistry I say, finding your fit.
@heart_leigh@xanga - More into girth than into length? So then, size still matters to you.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - Both wallet and dick size matter. Only difference is one fucks and one gets fucked.
@Kazydai@mancouch - hahahahaha love it
@Nous_Apeiron@xanga - It could be a combination of the change in living conditions for the poor and the increased automation of our society (which means fewer production-level jobs and more service sector jobs that are cushier and safer), so the incentive to "marry up", or engage in hypergamy, is lower. That and now that more women are in the workforce and schools and more men are disenfranchised, kinda makes it more difficult for women to find that provider guy because more and more of the guys are doing worse from an academic and professional standpoint (so there are fewer guys in the coveted "upper crust" jobs).
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - If you ever run into those georgetown hook- I mean, girls - you should submit a Datingish post on it.
@Kazydai@mancouch - When someone asks about penis size, I immediately think about length. As I mentioned in my previous post, the guys I've been with have been average size, but they had a good amount of girth. So, yes, in that case, size regarding thickness matters.
I haven't been with enough different men to know. I think as long as it's not either extreme, I'd probably be fine with it, but if I am in love, that's not going to be a turn-off.
But I think it's one of those questions no one will ever settle. Everyone's different, and men will always wonder if the women answering are actually being honest, just like women do when there's a question about whether breast size matters.
If I'm into the person for who he is, I don't care about his size,... that being said, in an IDEAL situation, I would prefer average size (length and width). I've found that extremes, no matter performance, aren't THAT great for me. ... But, ideal situations are different than realistic ones most of the time :)
nope! I surely do not think size matter! It's all in how u work it! I know this for a fact! wowza! Always left me wanting more! Sometimes though too big hurts, then it does matter. As for small, if u can work it, then it doesn't matter!
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MY DICK IS SO SMALL!!...FUCK!..I HATE THIS POST!
it doesn't really matter to me as long as he can perform well.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - haha i can think of a *lot* of d-ish posts i need to submit, but since the editors seem to have an affinity to not publish articles written by non-interns, i don't have much incentive to do it. (i wrote a couple some years ago but they never saw the light of day, so i've never bothered since.)
@ShirleyD@xanga - in the kama sutra they have animals to describe different sizes of schlong and vajayjay (small, medium, and large). i think a large dick is a horse and a large v is an elephant? i forget, i read it so many years ago, haha. in english, we usually just use the expression "throwing a hot dog down a hallway". in case you didn't know, that is :p
@EccentricSiren@xanga - got to sex it up before love first though, right? so does that mean you evolve from caring about size to not caring? (genuinely curious.)
Since we're on the topic, what about the size of her vag? Just sayin'.
A guy's skill and knowledge of how to use his penis to accurately pleasure a woman is more important, but size DOES matter a bit. I mean, it doesn't matter how good you are with pleasing a woman with your penis if your penis is 2inches in size when at full erection. And hell, sometimes the penis is just too big and it hurts more than it pleasures.
Overall though, I'd say size isn't that huge a factor. If ALL you're doing during sex is vaginal/anal penetration then I'd say that's pretty boring sex. You gotta mix it up with pleasing the mind and the rest of the body as well. It's also just personal preference. I myself like em bigger than the 5inch average and thick ;D