Wednesday, 22 August 2012
Apparently there are guys out there that think it is acceptable to date multiple women, and we women not only know this, BUT tolerate this. Maybe it has to do with the fact that we sometimes date multiple men as well. So if there comes a time when you want to be the only girl in a particular man’s life then you must speak up.
We all get nervous asking questions about where the relationship is going, because we don’t want the guy to know we are even thinking about a ‘relationship’, or getting ahead of ourselves. The word “relationship” scares people. But say you have a great first date with a guy and you liked him, the day dreaming starts, and then he’s all you can think about. You don’t ‘think’ he is seeing anyone else because he seems so into you. After two more dates, he starts acting a little strange and maybe even distant.
Then you find out he actually has a girlfriend. WHAT. Anyone else confused? How did you become entangled in someone else’s relationship? The sad truth is that this happens more often than we imagine it would or could.
If you are looking for a one woman man, and you actually are dating with the goal of a relationship as the final outcome, you need to get these players off your radar. They are just looking for a good time on the side. Most guys, even if they are douche bags, will be honest about one thing, and that’s if they are interested in a relationship. However, they won’t say anything until they think you are becoming too attached or unless you ask them. So if you like a guy, try to get it out of him – it’s pretty simple.
Just ask him if he’s in a relationship with anyone. There are three plausible outcomes. 1) the answer is no, and the date continues as is. 2) he says he is seeing someone, but it's no big deal…in which case, it is a big deal and you need to find the exit sign, this isn’t a reality show in which you are one of 25 participants trying to get the guy. 3) he freaks out and says he isn’t looking for a relationship any time soon, which means he probably won’t be around too long either way, so save yourself the trouble!
Any other ways to find out if he's a one woman man?