I've started seeing this guy. He is 24 and I am 39. I have never done this before. As a matter of fact, I've only ever been with men about 2 years older than I. We live in the same building. He caught my attention the first time I saw him and even though I thought I had felt some chemistry, I thought it was probably wishful thinking. I never pursued him, because nothing could be more embarrassing than an older woman going after a young guy... there's something inherently desperate about that.
We kept running into each other in the stairwell or in front of our building, sometimes standing and talking for an hour! One thing led to another and now we are seeing each other regularly. I let him initiate all intimacy. We are keeping it secret, which is what we both want. We are both single and neither of us has stopped dating other people because of this.
I never thought I could be so relaxed in a non-committed relationship, but I'm having a great time. I would love some perspectives on this. How does such a young man feel being with a woman 15 years older? Sometimes I wonder what might happen if one of us really falls in love with the other. At the same time, a real relationship just seems so unfathomable, I can't imagine that happening - which doesn't mean I don't excited when I get a text from him!